I really do appreciate all the advice that I received from you all on this matter.
I even appreciate the ones who gave critical advice and downed smoking.
I took all advice that was given and have resolved the problem with your help.
Here is where I am at with the issue now; I have been with my wife for almost twenty years now and we have always had a very strong and good relationship especially when it comes to communication. Well to her I betrayed that special bond by not telling her I was smoking. So in her mind she figured if I would hide this from her what else could or would I hide from her.
So after digesting all the good advice that I have received from you all, I had a long heart to heart talk with her and reasured her that even though I am no longer a Witness that I would never do anything to destroy the family that I Love. And that I felt like I have allready given her so much grief and disappointment in her life by not being a Witness that I could not bare the fact that she would have to deal with another one,that of me smoking. And that is why I hid it and the only reason.
I also told her that I have a freedom that allows me to make decesions for myself without worrying about what the WTS has to say and think about it and I will not ever be dominated by religion again.
I explained to her that I feel like that I am a very good husband and very good man. I provide for the family, I spend time with my kids and try to make the best of what I can with them all even though I am not a Witness.
So we came to some compromises that I can live with, first of all I will no longer go to the bars for Karaoke unless she comes with me and that of course I will never smoke in front of her are the kids are in our home which I would have never done anyways.
And the best one of all I DONT HAVE TO WEAR A CONDOM ! HA HA HA
THANKS AGAIN FOR YOUR SUPPORT.