Why I am leaving JWD (page 6)

lawrence

Bradley-

Enjoy your studies and your plant. Is Paul Tillich next?

teejay

... they said I had been very negative lately and carrying a lot of baggage. That obsessing about the JWs being wrong was obsessive and that the JW religion controlled me more today than it did 10 years ago.

I had actually been doing fine and recently looked into all of this, and I have to admit have become hooked, addicted, and obsessed. So, I understand your wanting to focus on school and building your mind. I realized today that my preaching to my mom, my obsessing about how "wrong" their "truth" is, turns out to equal exactly what they do, trying to convert non-believers. ? Pink

A remarkable post.

Good luck to you, too, Pink.

Billygoat

I had actually been doing fine and recently looked into all of this, and I have to admit have become hooked, addicted, and obsessed. So, I understand your wanting to focus on school and building your mind. I realized today that my preaching to my mom, my obsessing about how "wrong" their "truth" is, turns out to equal exactly what they do, trying to convert non-believers.

Interesting. I haven't thought about it quite in those words. Perhaps it's time for me to take a break too. I will joke that I am and have been addicted to this board for several years. Maybe there is a seriousness to it that I should acknowledge.

Pondering...

Andi

Valis

Andi, riddle me this...could you come here and ignore the JW stuff? P.S. Pinch the mozz for me please.

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

Billygoat

Andi, riddle me this...could you come here and ignore the JW stuff?

Could I come to this site and ignore the JW stuff? No, not really. It is a part of me and will forever be, but something I wonder if I haven't grown up enough to move beyond the board. I'm just wondering. I will admit that it takes my focus away from other things I should focus on. Like right now I should be doing laundry and cooking, but I'd much rather sit here and surf. I have a hard time balancing this board with real life sometimes.

Andi *who loves pinching the Mozz*

xenawarrior

Good luck in school. The more you lean the more you realize you don't know shit. When you reach that point, let us know.

Very well put. Reminds me of the recent college grads I've interviewed over the years. The ones with the "I'm going to show you how to run your company because I know how because I just graduated and you obviously don't know how because I haven't been here yet" attitude. Yep, they knew theory but had no experience with practical application.

I'm not trying to diss you on your way out for a break- enjoy your studies and enjoy life and take heed Dave's words- they are very wise ones indeed.

Good luck to you!

Valis

The problem I see is not just moving on and the Internet certainly has added a different dynamic to so many people's lives. I work on the Internet and play and look at porn and talk to my friends and...etc ad infinitum. It isn't something that goes away, nor are the great host of friends I have met and associate with here. If my parents and family were not associated with JWs I would probably care much less for discussions that revolved around JWland, but sadly that will probably never come to pass. So as you say it is a matter of balance, but seeing as I was a JW for 17 years and never really helped anyone, I figure I could at least do what I can to make sure others don't go down that road. The bonus is things like being able to stand up for people like you at your wedding, and meeting new people, and travelling to new places to find people with open arms and homes, regardless of how sad our mutual pasts might have been.

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

mama

I find myself responding to this thread both in agreement and disagreement, I agree, that some people don't move on with their lives, and wallow in pain, not that I am judging, cause I haven't lived their experience, so who am I to say when its time to move on for them, and I agree that people have had worse upbringings, but that does not in any way diminish the hell some have gone thru, I look at myself as one of the lucky ones, I got out. However, you say there is no such thing as normal, I say, not true, what is normal for me, may not be for you, but it is my normal, my contentment, my happiness, and to deny its existance is to say life has no hope. I think there is hope for all to find their normal. And don't you think that not being told you are special is one of the reasons why many who have been brought up as witnesses have no ambition, no self belief or self worth. It is hard to become a viable, productive individual when you are basically told from childhood, you are not special. I tell my children every day that they are special because they are to me. I want their talents to flourish because someone had faith in them when they were too young to have it in themselves. I am making a wild guess that you don't have children. When you do, you may find yourself rethinking some of your views. At least, I hope so, because we teach our children who they are, and my children will be taught they are special and unique, because they are.

czarofmischief

Aw, logan. I thought you were staying to talk to me!

LOL! Good luck, buddy. Have fun at school, and work on nailing those honeys you are always drooling about!

CZAR

frenchbabyface

Why ?

(sorry I'm in the mood for kidding) - you'll be back (SchwartLogan)

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