Hi Dave,
I'm glad for both of you, the next few weeks will be tough, hang in there.
If they DF you be carefull that it doesn't strain your relationship with FF, let her see that you are happy in your life and not afraid of the stand you have made, she is going to be nervous about goin to the K H and facing people after the announcement, give her a big hug before she goes to the meeting, EVERY TIME.
The little pats on the back, and the "never mind " , "if ther's anything I can do" that she gets at the K H will soon stop, so you keep giving her a hug just before she goes out the door and her sub-concience will start to make her feel she would rather be at home with you than in a room full of robots playing follow the leader. Don't discourage her from going, she will make that decision herself in time, be patient.
I'm thinging of you, your not alone.