Why did I leave after 50 yrs a JW

by londoner 41 Replies latest jw friends

  • londoner
    londoner

    Hi to all,

    I am not posting this to justify my actions, I am doing so for the benifit of any witnesses who are unsure about there feelings toward the "Truth". YOU ARE NOT ALONE

    I was a reguler pioneer for about 8 yrs, back when it was 100 hours a month, befor thet I did a couple of yrs as a vacation pioneer, they later changed the name to auxilery pioneer, and during the following 20 yrs I had a few intermitant spells as an auxilery when I had time to. During my pioneer years I have given talks at Circuit assemblies and had assignments at District assemblies
    As to why I left, no one reason, I suppose a build up of things that just didn't seem right, some of which I will bring up in time and some that are too personal to air in public.
    Almost anything in life you do is good at first but the longer you do something the greater the chance that you will come across an aspect of that thing that you don't like, and thats the same with the organisation. As the years passed my knowledge grew, not only of the scriptures but of how the congregations are run, and even more so the people that are running them.
    In every congregation thers always elders that become more dominant than others and strive for leadership, the problems start when you get these dominant elders palling up together, you know the routeen, always round each others houses for meals, wives always pairing up with each other on the ministry. before you know it the elders with the weaker personality are working behind the book counter instead of taking the watchtower study and the dominant elders are slowly getting a tighter grip on the congregation. And of course they have a large influence on who gets appointed and thus ther grip gets even stronger because they can appoint others like minded to themselves, ( ever wonder why certain ones in the cong always seemed to get overlooked ).
    Power corrupts, total power corrupts totally.
    This sort of thing doesn't happen over night it's a slow process, so if your in the org for anything less than 10 yrs you probably don't notice it so easily.
    I was raised as a witness, am now in my early 50's and only realised less than 12 months ago I have to get out.
    I feel my life has been wasted, taken from me, yes I am bitter, I still lose sleep over it often, but I am slowly starting to feel a heavy weight has been lifted from my back.

    I aim to do something usefull with the rest of my days. I am lucky that I have an amazing wife to help me.

    PS: I have now moved to another part of London where no one knows me

  • limbo
    limbo

    Hello Londoner,

    Nice to meet you. You aren't alone either.

    Welcome to the board!

    I put in my 30+ years as well.

    It is encouraging to read that you "aim to do something usefull with the rest of your days." It would be a Mortal sin to let the Watchtower steal another 50 years from you. FREEDOM from the watchtower is letting go enough to really LIVE!

    lim

  • Brummie
    Brummie

    Great introduction, and one I'm sure that will encourage many here.

    Power corrupts, total power corrupts totally.

    Yes! and didnt we this learn the hard way!

    Welcome aboard londoner.

    Brummie

  • Aude_Sapere
    Aude_Sapere

    Hello Londoner -

    Thanks for jumping right in and sharing some of your story with us!

    Welcome to the Board. I look forward to hearing more from you!

    -Aude.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Conratulations on your escape. We are about the same age. I got out about 8 yrs ago, though it seems like just a few months ago. I also was raised in it since i can remember. It's great that you are moving onto something useful. Enjoy your next 50 yrs.

    S

  • steve2
    steve2

    Hey welcome Londoner. Greetings from New Zealand! There's an enormous sense of pain and loss in your post, and I trust you will get lots of validation and encouragement as you reach out to others who have similarly left the organization. Anything I say about your sense of loss and wasted years is out of a sense of respect and hope that, of all you've been through over the years, you will have developed the skills and abilities to gradually rebuild your life.

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic

    Welcome Londoner to JWD!

    I enjoyed reading about your experience seems pretty much the same on that side of the pond with the elders and all.

    Take care.

  • GetBusyLiving
    GetBusyLiving

    Hi Londener, I'm happy you found this site. It's a really great place to post, the honesty is really refreshing and, I can't think of a better way to express it than 'human'. I hope you can find something positive from your time as a witness. Welcome!

  • jwsons
    jwsons

    ((((((((((((((((( Welcome))))))))))))

    jwsons

  • anglise
    anglise

    Welcome Londoner

    So pleased you got out and with the support of your wife.

    Kept saying yes, yes, yes as we (other half as well) read your post. It is very hard to explain all the conniving/back biting thats goes on behind the scenes to those who where either only in a few years or kept to the edge of the cong.

    Hope your new life is all that you want it to be.

    Look forward to hearing from you as you feel able to post.

    Anglise

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