Yep, I was at this Website last night composing a reply to add to the comments on a question posed by a poster. My wife tiptoed into the room and before I could hide what I was doing saw that I was on this website. Initially she lectured me on the danger of associating with apostates. My dishonest response that I was defending the WTS was immediately in her opinion suspect. Her next concern was that I was having a “personal relationship’ with the poster to whom I was replying. I assured her that JWs, ex-JWS and non-JWs all came to this website to share thoughts. I further assured her that most of us and especially the active JWs (due to the Dfing aspect) wanted to remain anonymous. We then had our usual heated discussion about which one of us was being mislead. This morning she apologized to me and said that if I was really trying to help people she had no problem with what I was doing (whew!).
No Point to any of this other than wanting to share the experience.
I remember when my wife caught me. The first time it was by logging into my account and checking my history. She ratted me out to the elders. The second time she got really pissed, but knew there was nothing she could do as I was already "lost". Then two weeks later she started surfing around here as well.
Intersting story,I don't know if my wife would react the same;she'd probably want me to go talk to the elders.
Anyways,looks like you might be making some headway with your wife,good for you.
As for me my wife called me at work last night,said she was feeling kinda sad and went on to explain that over the last few years all her jw friends have slowly disappeared for different reasons and that her best friend now is a worldly person who's so much like her they get along great.I told they get along so good because they don't talk about sad,depressing bs that goes on in the congregation,that it's a better friendship.I'm slowly working at her like that.
I introduced my wife to this website well over a year ago when I came across a topic that was similar to one the two of us were talking about a few days earlier. I cut-and-pasted into a Word document the initial post and selected replies, thus creating a "bulletin board" for her to read. I said this came off a web site where JWs can come to freely speak their minds and ask questions and "warned" her that some of the responses were from people who had issues with the organization and/or had left it.
She was fascinated, as I knew she'd be (because I was, too) by the intelligent, reasonable tone of many of the responses, and before long she was asking me if there were any more interesting topics on the forum that I could share with her. She kept all those, and now they are in a three ring binder a couple of inches thick. She's shared them with all our grown children. Now there are no witnesses in our happy family!
My wife caught me on this site long ago, but I really wasn't working that hard trying to hide it either.....
I have broadband set up for wireless and I've provided her with her own laptop, but she picked up mine one day because she was too lazy to go and get her own and started browsing through sites located in my address history. I could tell that she was upset to say the least and that she was very irritated but she didn't say anything.
I guess being the sole bill paying breadwinner in the house has it's privileges.
She now goes out of her way to avoid using my laptop for anything.
She was fascinated, as I knew she'd be (because I was, too) by the intelligent, reasonable tone of many of the responses, and before long she was asking me if there were any more interesting topics on the forum that I could share with her. She kept all those, and now they are in a three ring binder a couple of inches thick. She's shared them with all our grown children. Now there are no witnesses in our happy family!
Wow. I couldn't help but think that you were describing an Apostofest skit. LOL!
Ahhhhh! Busted! And quick thinking (though I bet you had this excuse ready already).
It can be a really good thing to get 'busted'. Especially after her morning comments to you. You might eventually confide in her that some issues are quite tricky to defend, as the arguments against the WTS are so well-documented (607 BCE, UN documentation). If she's comfortable with the internet, she might evntually want to research them herself. (Someone posted in another thread that they had seen a billboard with only 607 BCE??? on it, and thatphrasealone triggered an internet search that led him out of the WTS.)
My wife ALMOST caught me surfing this site. I managed to close down before she saw the screen and kind of hinted around that I was looking at porn and was embarrased.....
