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stillajwexelder

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that I'd want my daughter to be happy as the person she was meant to be, even if it is not necessarily what I had hoped she might be. You are not out on a limb at all Scully - I feel the same

gotcha

there's another option which i forgot...would you rather that she were:

5. dead

kls

Gotcha,,,, my only answer is you really have no choice. You can put your two cents in but that's about it . I can say i wanted my daughters to be brain surgeons or astronauts but that don't mean you get what you want.

kls

Dead ???? What kind of a question is that ? NO,, i love my kids

Big Tex

2. be gay (with woman who is quite good, responsible and everything but - a woman...)

Does their partner love your daughter? Is your daughter happy with this woman?

If so, then accept it and let it go.

"May it be said of everyone once in their life: 'I was adored once too'. -- Four Weddings and a Funeral

AlmostAtheist

"Alone" sounds lonely, but it doesn't have to be. If she could be alone and happy, then I would choose that. If she had to be with someone else to be happy, then I'd rather she'd be gay with a nice woman than straight with a jerk guy.

(I'm not picking alone over gay, I'm picking alone over "not alone".)

I understand you're shooting for hypotheticals here. Of course, it's her choice. But if she were a paper doll and I got to choose how she lived her life, that's what I'd go with.

Dave

gotcha

even if u were sure she was just destroying herself....would u still want her to live and continue making a mess out of her life?

RebelliousSpirit

2. be gay (with woman who is quite good, responsible and everything but - a woman...)

No doubt in my mind, 110%, that's what I would choose if that is what made my child happy. The happiness and emotional well-being of my sons is of the utmost importance to me . My love for them is unconditional. Their sexual orientation is inconsequential.

A little advice from one mother to another - this isn't about you, mom ... this is about your daughter. Love her. The rest will fall into place, and you will both be MUCH happier for it.

Joyzabel

Gotcha,

good to see you posting after many years. How are you?

Please be true to yourself, whatever that maybe. Sometimes, its not what the parent thinks that guide our lives but what we ourselves think/condemn.

Now, about this "dead" thing. Please go see a counselor immediately.

This situation is not to be taken lightly. You need to discuss your feelings.

Hugs to you,

Joy

Robdar

1. married to a guy who's not really that great (history of having lotsa women, irresponsible) but seems to love/like your daughter
2. be gay (with woman who is quite good, responsible and everything but - a woman...)
3. be a drug addict
4. be alone

If that's the list of all that my daughter thought that she had to choose from, I'd have a long talk with my daughter about her self esteem issues.

Robyn

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