JTP-----
I've heard Easter brunch is delicious! Can I come?!!!
Curlygirl
Refusing magazines/books from JW relatives
by JustTickledPink 31 Replies latest jw friends
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Beck_Melbourne
My mum always gives me magazines, and then she says 'oh but you better not read it, or you'll get scared'....ie. the end is near and all that shite. I just smile at her quirky little ways and put the magazines on my coffee table to make my apostate friends eye's pop out when they visit.
On the other hand, if my grandmother were to offer me or give me publications, I would be inclined to refuse them. She has a manner that offends me, yet my mother doesn't. Funny that.
~Beck~
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orbison11
sorry all
but i agree with pink, i would also do as she stated,
as with some you have to put up a brick wall to get them to listen, and what better way to get a jw to listen to speak their language
orbi
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mtbatoon
I can see where your coming from JTP. My mother and I have a no religion agreement, I don't speak of my beliefs and nor does she. Of course she often does and has tried to slip me the odd WT but I see it as a mothers concern and love for her child even though I can't agree with the dogma that fuels the concern.
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lisavegas420
On the last phone conversation with my dad, (about 2 years ago) I told him that no has ever been to our house. I mentioned that I couldn't get a subscription to the magazines either. He said "they stoped the magazines subscriptions, and you probaby wasn't at home when the JW's came by". ...I said I'm always home or either someone else is here.....He said... he would send me some liturature....he never did.....weird.
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JustTickledPink
Well, for those of you that feel that it is disrespectful, maybe it's because you don't really know me or my mother or our situation. My mother has never shown me respect... but I'm not going to defend my position. I found humor in posting that yesterday, I have no idea if I ever will do it, I just found it quite humorous.
And by the way... those garage sale trinkets and dishes she dropped off for me... her gift??? Well, she asked me to pay her $27 for them because she went out of her way and picked me some things up. So I actually was nice enough to pay her for them, even though everything wasn't my style or taste. That's how she gives me gifts, recycled garage sale or thrift shop finds that she charges me for. Maybe that is why I felt a bit snarky about the whole thing.
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rebel8
Have the same prob with my JW mother. Have been asking her for 15+ years to stop sending me stuff. Believe me, I am all for good manners. However, there is a point at which it's appropriate to stand up for oneself. When repeated requests to stop giving offensive materials are ignored, that is one of those times.
It all hit the fan when she sent a card addressed to my new husband (not to me), full of witnessing. (It was soooo whacky, BTW, of the "call the men with the straightjackets" variety. I had mentioned to mom that DH had taken a vacation day off to unwind because he had been working so hard. She wrote about what a great "employer" the big J is, how he doesn't cause stress for his "employees", how she wishes he would convert to being a JW, etc. I wish I could have taken a photo of the look on my husband's face when he was reading it. Priceless!)
I ripped up the letter, put it in a Christmas envelope, wrote a note saying I would no longer be accepting any written materials from her. Tries to give me stuff, I inspect the parcel thoroughly before accepting it. Anything mailed is marked "return to sender, refused" and mailed back. I told her if she continues, I will cut off all contact with her. Since then, she has been behaving herself, but I know it's only a matter of time, and I plan on keeping my promise.
That event is what spurred me on to join these apostate boards and begin writing a book about leaving the JWs. So I guess it had a positive outcome after all, just not the one mom had hoped for!
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chappy
The only thing I would do differently is substitute religious literature for the trinkets. She'll toss 'em for sure, but at least she couldn't say anything to you for trashing her literature without exposing her hypocracy.
chappy
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144001
You should just be honest with your parents. Tell them you'll never read the materials as you have zero belief in the Watchtower. It will likely be rough in the short term, but in the long term, your parents will likely respect you for being honest.
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cab1000
Oh Fooey!
Stick in the muds! She has a good idea here! If mom quits loving her because she gives her a religious item, then there is no love there anywayz. I think it a fantastick idea! It really sends a message, and its funny to boot! Be sure to make it a real gaudy thing. Make it Overly religious, include a deeply religious card with it..preferablly used! Have fun with it. I see no disrespect, just a good time!
~cab