Am I a bad person to ask Why?

by rockhound 26 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • mkr32208
    mkr32208

    FDS- The reality is that he got out! To say that your reasons for leaving or for wanting to help out other witlesses are MORE valid because they are more personal is nonsense! So in his case a date helped him to start to question and in your case (if you ever were a witness) it was the blood issue... So your both out, hooray lets throw a party in BOTH your honors!!!! This idea of your reasons being more valid because it's personal???? Pretty lame!

    As to him saying why why why did I stay in this cult for so long that's pretty standard stuff it's a normal reaction and were all used to it around here. You just need to relax a bit my fine friend!

  • itsallgoodnow
    itsallgoodnow

    Rockhound - that was interesting information - thanks very much for posting it.

    FDS - you seem to be speaking out of both sides of your mouth when you say...

    do you ever look into the mirror and wonder how many of those you personally lead to the organization have let themselves of their children DIE because the organization said so?

    Every person is different but if someone tried to sit down with you and show you these things while you were on fire for the organization would you have listened? As for dates, that is EASY, anyone could have read up on the Watchtower prior to joining. Kingdom of the cults comes to MIND and that has been out long. Specifically one could even gets hints of this in the Watchtower and their books but if one really took the time to check into all this then maybe just maybe they would have not joined but I know a few right now who already are showing the JW mind-set and they are not baptized. Truth is an active JW does not let old light bother him much, there are countless thousands who went through 75 yet "wait upon Jehovah" to clear matters up (they will be waiting a long time). I believe every witness has "heard" of past failures unless you were not one to knock on many doors....

    So you are asking Rockhound to have a guilt trip over all the people he brought into this cult who physically lost their lives because of it. How can you assume he brought anybody into it? And if he did, then according to the second statement above, they should have checked it out themselves and Rockhound isn't the guilty one, but the deceived individual himself is. Pick a side.

    Also,

    I find it amazing that one who spent fourty years going door to door let something so trivial as the 1975 thing break your faith. Let's be honest for a moment, certainly you must of had issues prior to the 1975 failure? Could it really have just been a nail in the coffin so to speak? I question this because the 1975 thing was not that big a deal, well anymore than 1925, 1918, 1916 and 1914 had been.

    Who are you to decide when Rockhound should have started smelling a rat and what should have made him think it was time to re-examine his beliefs? From my own personal experiences, I had questions which I just swallowed and didn't think about for a long time, much less do anything about them. And how would you know what effect 1975 had on Rockhound personally? Maybe he put off important decisions and missed opportunities he later regretted. When you get out and realize it's all crap, that could hit you kind of hard.

    And, 1975 was not a big deal? From the quotes I have read from the Watchtower's publications about it, I can see how a person who fully trusts the Watchtower in everything could believe it.

    So sit here on a WWW site and tell the world how many wasted years you had as one of Jehovah's servants, whos fault was that Rock? You might have not had any sharks but perhaps thousands of gupies nipping at your heels to have got some idea that something was wrong.

    I think the point Rockhound was making was why did it take him so long to figure it out. Why are you so relentless in attacking him for not seeing it earlier? I hardly think a person with your attitude could be very good at helping anyone out of a cult.

    A cult. This too is very subjective and depends on who is making the claim. Many Fundemental Christians can be labeled as a "cult" and in fact many who claim to have the "truth" do this very thing. You don't believe in the body of Jesus raising from the dead? You're a "cult" No Trinity? Cult. Cult becomes a free for all based on IF one disagrees with the speaker's beliefs. Many religions claim to be the truth, many ex JWs now claim to have found the "truth" in another reiglion based upon the Watchtower and it's mistakes. Again, just because the organization has made some false statements does not make another religion's teachings right.

    I agree it's difficult to determine if a group really fits into the definition of a cult, and that the term is used by different cults against other cults to keep their believers from defecting to another cult. I think it's safe to say Jehovah's Witnesses are a cult, based on a few characteristics that they meet full-on...

    1. The group is focused on a living leader to whom members seem to display excessively zealous, unquestioning commitment.

    2. The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members.

    3. Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged or even punished.

    4. The leadership dictates sometimes in great detail how members should think, act, and feel.

    5. The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, its leader(s), and members.

    6. The group has a polarized us- versus-them mentality, which causes conflict with the wider society.

    7. The leadership induces guilt feelings in members in order to control them.

    8. Members' subservience to the group causes them to cut ties with family and friends, and to give up personal goals and activities that were of interest before joining the group.

    9. Members are expected to devote inordinate amounts of time to the group.

    10. Members are encouraged or required to socialize only with other group members.

    FDS also said...

    I did not say that the Watchtower as a GROUP has not praticed lies. They must for the better of the flock.

    For the betterment of the flock, or for the protection of their own authority?

    Better ask yourself this, "What am I doing to help those I personally mislead into the organization"?

    I cannot help but feel revolted by your thinly veiled contempt in this question. Besides the fact it almost sounds like a Watchtower "how can I do more to reach those in my neighborhood/job/school?" or some shit.

    You may be riding high about how much you are "doing" to personally help others, but it's rather difficult to believe if that's really what you are about you would come out here and try to bring others down this way. Rockhound is doing fine by investing his time on this discussion board. If he finds an opportunity to help someone "personally" I have no doubt he will take it.

  • trevor
    trevor

    Rockhound - or can I call you Clark!

    That was a very interesting speech you posted. I have copied it to file and will read it through again.

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff
    I find it amazing that one who spent fourty years going door to door let something so trivial as the 1975 thing break your faith. Let's be honest for a moment, certainly you must of had issues prior to the 1975 failure? Could it really have just been a nail in the coffin so to speak? I question this because the 1975 thing was not that big a deal, well anymore than 1925, 1918, 1916 and 1914 had been. I'm sure you knew about those dates too during 40 years of service? Yes the Society played a part (a BIG ONE) in 75 but what is the big deal about it? They said PERHAPS-MIGHT-MAYBE but NEVER said for "certain" that it would see an end to the work. They published silly things about others selling thier homes and the like

    FDS - I did not read the entire thread - your comments made me so sick with anger! How dare you make such a statement? I too - swallowed hook line and sinker - for well over 40 years.

    No. Most of us had no idea that 1925, 1918, 1914 were equally as wrong! The organization has spent decades covering those issues over! Obviously YOU did not live thru the 1975 Fiasco! I did! And it was more than some mere speculation going on - as anyone who wants to investigate it knows.

    I am sure there are plenty of posters who will give you the real facts and quotes here - I am too sickened by your presumptuousness to do so - but I have a looseleaf notebook with hundreds of pages of misleading lies and doctrines. I came to know of these things much later. As did most!!

    Jeff

  • FDS
    FDS

    I KNOW what the organization has said about 1975, no need to tell me. You all are talking like it is so clear NOW but so unlcear back when you were active? I tend to think that if one was so moved to leave the WT over a date that would see an end to the work then they were working towards that alone, THEY desired the world to end and when it failed they felt like all the work that was done was a waste. Yeah I question motives, you bet ya. Not all witnesses left for "good reasons" yet the mentality is any reason is better than no reason" but that does not MEAN that the Witness is now a good person anymore than he was being in a cult. Am I happy that Rock left? SURE but I find it amazing how most of the Ex JWs a praise each other regardless of their involvement in the Organization, what they have done to promote the Watchtower and when it was personally dissapointing (No end of the present wicked system of things) they then see the "light" that the Watchtower has lead them down a wrong road. Again, not one WITNESS takes any blame for his actions, it's all the bad-cultic-organization's fault, we were blinded by the light, "How were we to know". Take responsibility in your actions but do not preach to me about my responces on a public message board being unkind or unfriendly. Unlike the Kingdom Hall we can talk about our feelings openly, you don't have to like what I say but I will say it regardless.

    Rock, I am glad you left, I really am but do others who do not at present share your feelings about leaving, there are 1,019,000, active Jehovah's Witnesses still stuck in the Watchtower who have not let "75" bother them enough to leave. Sure many did who spent their time preaching the end was soon but this falls on deaf ears now. What it seems to me is that it takes a PERSONAL issue of sorts to cause the questioning in the first place. It's just that you are out, it's time you share more than "75", certainly after 40 years you have seen other things that will effect (help) others who might be reading this web site. Remember how you felt and thought of folks like yourself when you were active, it's an easy thing to see lies and falsehoods once you are out but you already know the "Wait on Jehovah" syndrom effecting current memebers. If we are to reach others then we need to meet them as THEY are, not as WE ARE.

    Peace

    FDS

  • itsallgoodnow
    itsallgoodnow

    FDS-

    You all are talking like it is so clear NOW but so unlcear back when you were active? I tend to think that if one was so moved to leave the WT over a date that would see an end to the work then they were working towards that alone, THEY desired the world to end and when it failed they felt like all the work that was done was a waste. Yeah I question motives, you bet ya. Not all witnesses left for "good reasons" yet the mentality is any reason is better than no reason" but that does not MEAN that the Witness is now a good person anymore than he was being in a cult.

    You are completely forgetting the social pressures involved that keep people trapped even after they have started to feel uncomfortable about things, and sometimes even after they are sure it's all lies.

    I can really tell you have not fully left behind your judgemental JW mindset. Now everyone who has left needs to prove to you their motives for leaving were pure? Yeah, right. All you really accomplish here is letting us all know you think yours were. Still waving that finger at everyone. I shudder to think what you might have been like as a Witness, if this is improvement.

    People leave cults for different reasons... kicked out, found out or walked out. And what they go through afterward sometimes depends on how they left it, but how can you sit there and think people on a JW support board aren't doing something about it and becoming better people? Sure, some JWs were jerks and after they left are probably still jerks, but I still can't figure out what that has to do with anything, unless you are talking about yourself?

    Again, not one WITNESS takes any blame for his actions, it's all the bad-cultic-organization's fault, we were blinded by the light, "How were we to know". Take responsibility in your actions

    Obviously, you haven't read the many, many posts where we talked about our own roles in all of this. Moron.

    but do not preach to me about my responces on a public message board being unkind or unfriendly. Unlike the Kingdom Hall we can talk about our feelings openly, you don't have to like what I say but I will say it regardless.

    Oh, please. Your posts #2-7 are spitting fire, you deserve it. Thanks for your permission to not like what you say, I don't - most of it seems very hateful. I don't know where you get with that attitude if your intent really is to lend support on a SUPPORT forum.

    Rock, I am glad you left, I really am but do others who do not at present share your feelings about leaving, there are 1,019,000, active Jehovah's Witnesses still stuck in the Watchtower who have not let "75" bother them enough to leave. Sure many did who spent their time preaching the end was soon but this falls on deaf ears now. What it seems to me is that it takes a PERSONAL issue of sorts to cause the questioning in the first place. It's just that you are out, it's time you share more than "75", certainly after 40 years you have seen other things that will effect (help) others who might be reading this web site. Remember how you felt and thought of folks like yourself when you were active, it's an easy thing to see lies and falsehoods once you are out but you already know the "Wait on Jehovah" syndrom effecting current memebers. If we are to reach others then we need to meet them as THEY are, not as WE ARE.

    Rockhound is just posting his thoughts, he's not speaking directly to an audience of JW believers. If you were counseling him on an address he had just given to an audience of current JWs, I would understand the point you are making here, but why jump all over him for a message on a forum about 75, etc.? Jeez!

    Although I am interested to know how is that working for you - - focusing on the personal issues instead of dates, etc.? In my experience, you can't talk to a current JW about dates and failed prophecies. They have to begin smelling a rat on their own before they are ready to talk rationally about that.

  • FDS
    FDS

    Itsallgoodnow,

    Maybe I was a bit harsh in a few replys but calling someone a "moron" is doing the exact thing you accuse me of dear, if you dsire one to listen openly then please leave the name calling at home, I called no names here.

    Ok, looking back over this thread I should have not let MY personal feelings get the best of me in regards to Rock. After all, we do all share a common something don't we? It was not my intentions on my first reply to get into "your resasons are less than others" only that knowing how Witnesses think, this 75 thing is old news, very old news and I got the impression that he just left because of it.

    Anyways how I was and am now is not to be found on a WWW web site with a bunch of hidden names. I am not going to fall into the trap of self destruction fighting over this anymore. frankly I wish I could say that I really care about what you think of me personally, it does not matter. I've never been one to not speak my mind EVEN if others do not see it my way. I am man enough to know that I gave a bad impression here but I still hold my ground about personal responsibility for OUR ACTIONS.

    Good day

    FDS

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