Man am I bummed....

by upside/down 22 Replies latest jw friends

  • upside/down
    upside/down

    Just got off the phone with my brother who lives in SoCal (nonDub) and was informed that my dad just had a stroke!

    He's my "DAD", not the sperm donor that helped concieve me and my brother than abandoned us so he could "find himself". He's 74, very intelligent old school retired ex Marine, that served in the Korean War. He's had a hard life and never complained. He raised my brother and me and has loved my mom to pieces (married in "76)... even though she is a VERY DIFFICULT woman to live with. She is an obese, bitchy, controlling, depressed, hypochondriac.... and yet he has stuck it out and raised us as his "own".

    By todays standards he would be labeled an 'abusive" parent. I THANK "GOD" this man showed up and taught mey brother and me how to be "men". He disapproved of my becoming a JW, yet still respected me and even told me once that he was "proud" of me. He's the old school John Wayne type. Very rugged individualist.

    If "God" ever did ANYTHING for us.... he was and is IT! And my step-dad doesn't have a religious bone in his body- says it's all hypocricy! I think he's had it right all along. He's a far better person than most Dubs could ever hope to aspire being. Hard working, honest, looked after the less fortunate, raised his kids right - all without "religion". All this despite that he was an alcoholic and had a harsh edge...To think I let the Dubs get me to have nothing to do with him for over 10 years because he was "bad association" and "worldly". Yet when the sh*t hit the fan he welcomed me back NO QUESTIONS ASKED!

    Who's the "real" "christian" here? If only there were more like him.

    u/d (of the I'm bummed class) reaaaallly bummed!!!

  • gumby
    gumby

    U/D.....so sorry buddy. I too regret the many years I kept a distance from those I could have shown more love to....but because of the reasons you mentioned, I kept a distance. Religion certainly divides doesn't it?

    Please keep us informed and hang tight my friend.

    Gumby

  • the_classicist
    the_classicist

    Sorry to hear about that, he sounds like a really cool guy. I hope he gets better.

    Sounds almost exactly like my only grandpa (before he passed), even down to the marital situation.

  • Double Edge
    Double Edge
    He's the old school John Wayne type. Very rugged individualist.

    Sounds like my dad (same generation). If anyone can, he's the type that will pull through this "setback". There are so many degrees of strokes. Let's hope and pray for the best and a speedy recovery.

    Hard working, honest, looked after the less fortunate, raised his kids right - all without "religion".

    You're right, you were lucky (blessed) to have him come into your life.

    I'll be thinking of you guys..... take care.

    D.E.

  • GetBusyLiving
    GetBusyLiving

    :If "God" ever did ANYTHING for us.... he was and is IT!


    Damn straight man. He sounds like a stand up guy. Sorry to hear you are going through this bro. My parents are getting up there too.. I hate it.



  • fairchild
    fairchild

    Hugs from fairchild. Hang in there!

  • Preston
    Preston

    Your father is a righteous man...

    He represents what I think I true Christian should be

    warts and all...

    alcoholism aside

    Hope he gets better

    - Preston

  • MerryMagdalene
    MerryMagdalene

    Loving thoughts to you and your Dad, u/d Please keep us posted on how you both are doing...

    ~Merry

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    U/D, I hope your dad will recover completely from his stroke and go on to live to 100.

    She is an obese, bitchy, controlling, depressed, hypochondriac.... and yet he has stuck it out and raised us as his "own".

    Maybe your stepdad sees a lot more in your mamma than this. Sounds to me like he loves her. I believe that's why there was the Oscar the Grouch character on Sesame Street, to show that even grouches are lovable. Maybe your wise dad sees your mom as fiesty, assertive and queensized rather than bitchy and obese.

    Take care and keep us updated, please.

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    I hope your dad gets better.. I don't blame you for feeling like you do

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