Welcome, Jula71.
I think you'll find support here, and will like it.
DY
My story.....
by jula71 34 Replies latest jw friends
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confusedjw
Welcome Julia - I too am fading.
How did it effect you thinking that your lifelong religion isn't actually the truth?
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jeanniebeanz
welcome, Jula.
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jula71
Confusedjw, that?s a good question. Right now I?m experiencing a few emotions, anger, guilt and everything in between.
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Goldminer
Welcome jula71,
I'm in the same boat as you,and trying to fade away.Hope you'll stick around and share some more thoughts with us.
Goldminer
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bikerchic
Welcome Jula71!
Right now I?m experiencing a few emotions, anger, guilt and everything in between.
It's natural to feel the feelings you are experiencing I have this stage of recovery from dysfunctional family systems I'll post and you can basically substitute "family" with anything like JW's/cults and it all applies the same. These are stages and necessary to go through so hang in there it will eventually get better.
Typical Stages of Recovery For Dysfunctional Family Systems
Phase 1 Status quo
Familiar This is where we start. Dysfunctional
Certain but simi-comfortable with our controls.
Control Not really aware of what we do to ourselves
or those around us.
Phase 2 Awareness
Information Typically reading all kinds of self-help
Education and psychology books. Trying to get
Health better by thinking ourselves better.
(but finding it doesn't work for long)
Phase 3 Chaos
Outbursts Most people when they get here want to
Hysterics jump back to phase 2 because this phase
Panic is so frightening. For true recovery this
phase has to be gone through. Need some
support especially here.
Phase 4 Practice
New patterns Using healthier ways of handling things but
Uncertain it doesn't feel familiar and is not really
Not familiar comfortable yet.
Phase 5 New Status
Have integrated new ways of coping into our
lives and starting to feel much more comfortable
with it.
Sometimes people can stay stuck in the first 2 phases and not progress much beyond that.
It's usual for people to make a jump back to phase 2 when they start to feel the chaos of phase 3,
depending on the issues, people may do this several times before they can safely allow the chaos
phase to happen.
A person may go through all these phases, all the way through to phase 5, yet they will probably
continue to jump back and forth through the phases throughout their life. Again, it depends on the
issues and the person. Jumping back and forth does not mean that no progress has been made.
Recovery does not happen in a straight line or only in one direction.
Kate
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TheListener
Welcome Jula. I'm in the fade process as well. Do you have family you're worried about losing after you fade?
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kls
OMG an evil smurf,,,,,,,,,,,,,,lol,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Welcome Jula
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Balsam
Hi Julia,
Your in a good place read tons of the posts on all subjects and talk to us. Glad to have you here.
Balsam
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Dustin
Welcome Jula. It's a long road to recovery after growing up in the JW religion. So many things have been engrained in your mind as being the "truth". Once you can realize that you don't have to feel guilty not following their rules, life is really awesome. Be glad you are realizing this with a long road of life in front of you.
Dustin