Neighbor: "I'm so glad you left the JW organization"

by seattleniceguy 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • seattleniceguy
    seattleniceguy

    So I was out working in my yard the other day. I've met a lot of my neighbors that I didn't know recently, because as I'm working in the yard, they stop by to chat as they're walking the dog, etc. I'm really getting to know the neighborhood. It's nice.

    One of my neighbors is an elderly woman named Joanne. She lives only three doors down from me, but I had never met her. We chatted for a few minutes, and she said, "You know, I'm so glad you left the JW organization." "How did you know that?" I bemusedly asked. "Oh, my daughter went to school with so-and-so (a nominal Witness who lives down the street) and she told me."

    I was struck by how much people in a neighborhood know about each other and the goings-on in that neighborhood. When I first left the borg, I was surprised by how my neighbor across the street knew everyone on the street by name and called out to them as they walked by.

    It's still amazing to think of how coccooned you are as a Witness. You live in this tiny world, so you just kind of assume everyone else does too.

    I was thinking the other day about that Awake a few years back about neighbors and how people don't talk to each other anymore. It just made me crack up. These guys clearly don't live in my neighborhood. If they came around these parts doing their "Isn't it a shame that people don't talk to each other anymore?" spiel, they wouldn't get too far.

    It's just a continuing revelation, how much community there is in the real world.

    SNG

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    nice guy

    over and over again I am hit by just how much more friendly and unconditionally loving people outside the JWs are! My b/f knows everyone on our street and goes out for curries regularly with three of the other similar aged dads. His daughter has more friends on our little road then I had the whole time I was growing up in all the congregations I attended put together.

    I, because I have grown up hiding from neighbours so I wouldnt have bad association haven't felt able to mix with the neighbours, but they are all really friendly and wave to me and say hi to me by name. So I'm guessing I should try and shake off some off my JW trained unfriendliness and get to know them!

  • Wolfgirl
    Wolfgirl

    It's exactly the same in our neighbourhood. I'm really enjoying getting to know some of the people here. And they all know each other and talk all the time. It's the JWs who don't talk to anyone anymore, unless they're trying to shove "the Bible message" down people's throats.

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    We were taught to preach love thy neighbour but if love thy neighbour involved talking to them about subjects other than the bible, or inviting them round for a BBQ to discuss the footie over a few beers or anything social you were liable to get warned for your wordly association .!

  • Wolfgirl
    Wolfgirl

    I never understood that. How can you love someone if you don't talk to them? That old line, "We're showing love by sharing a life-giving message with them..."...what rubbish.

  • GetBusyLiving
    GetBusyLiving

    We are all so much better off out of that Org.. in so many ways. Most people are good at heart.

    GBL

  • Cygnus
    Cygnus

    I don't have much to do with my neighbors because I like peace and quiet, but occasionally they knock on my door for some help or I stand next to the fence and chat for a bit. I don't know if other than they ones next door that have been here 30 years if they know I am ex-JW or not, or if they knew if my ex-wife was a JW. I don't think anyone here cares that much.

    Funny, when I grew up in old neighborhood, my JW parents were very friendly with all the worldy neighbors on our block. We knew everybody's names and their stories and we would share car rides to school with the girls across the street and my mom would share recipies and dishes with the other moms and we'd play with the neighborhood kids all the time and my dad would do favors for older folks' homes that needed this or that. I have dreams about 'the old neighborhood' all the time. In that respect I lived a pretty normal childhood.

    Edited to add: how come my Bill Shatner post was moved to Entertainment but this one wasn't moved to Personal Experiences? huh huh? Just kidding. SNG, always love your posts man. If I were gay I'd be all over you.

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic

    In the neighborhood where my X and I raised our kids it was considered to be the ghetto and our house was by far the nicest one in the whole area. Our neighbors the ones who actually owned their homes like us began to take better care of their yards and houses and said many times to us we set the example. It was well known that we were JW's, we had the book study at our house for years, plus field service meetings there on weekends. Our territory was one of those worked to life death territories but the common complaint by the JW's who worked it was that they could never get anywhere with the householders because the common reply was, "yeah we know the so and so's next door and they keep us informed." LOL We never preached to our neighbors!

    Now that hubby and I have bought a house one of the first things we did was get busy cleaning up our very neglected yard and our male neighbors have commented that it has caused them grief with their wives to do more yard work! LOL But I must say the hood is looking good! I guess some things you learn as JW's never die, this just happens to be a good thing for us!

    Back on topic......I recently have been discussing with two of my clients that I escaped the Watchtower and boy have I gotten an earful from them on the bad experiences they've had with the Witnesses, things that they wouldn't have said if I told them I am a JW. It's been an eyeopener for me to say the least.

    Yeah by far the consensus has been like you sng; "I'm so glad you left the JW organization!"

    Kate

  • diamondblue1974
    diamondblue1974

    Ive had similar experiences; we have only recently moved into our home and we have got to know our next door neighbours quite well, so much so they have invited us round for BBQ's and so forth (when the weather warms up); we regularly will stop and have a chat on the drive and its nice to be sociable and welcoming instead of false and aloof.

    Another reason to be out of the WTS.

  • iiz2cool
    iiz2cool

    Several neighbors have expressed to me how glad they are that the book study isn't here anymore. They also pumped me for information they could use if JWs ever come to their doors again.

    Walter

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