Actually I'm sorry to say I've been feeling very smug and congratulating myself and friend and really I should be thanking everyone here on JWD and other sites like Quotes and Gary Buss! I wouldn't have learned or known anything without all of you and I certainly wouldn't have been able to explain everything so calmly and confidently.
But more than anything, I'm so glad that my friend is not going to be trapped in unhappiness in JW land.
Thanks all.