who was DFd because of "immorality"?

by ShadowX 31 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Lehaa
    Lehaa
    She's not particularly grown up anyway despite being 21 but has a very stunted view of male/female relationships overall, not just in relation to sex but in the way she operates around men

    That is soo true with most young witness girls. There are soo many rules and regulations as to what is/is not appropriate that the whole relationship thing is nearly impossible. Not untill i decided to leave the organisation and removed the bond of sexual repression was I able to have a totally normal relationship with a member off the opposite sex. Sexual or just purely platonic.

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    If LT hadn't made this comment

    I'm starting to see a distinct pattern in your threads and posts, though.

    I was just about to!

    ShadowX - is it perhaps a long time since you had any "immorality" yourself?

    I was DFed for shagging about amongst other things - when in fact I made it up. I felt under pressure to admit to bags of immoral shenanigans - I felt I'd be letting the side (other young folks in the cong) down if I didn't "sex" (to borrow a current political buzz word) my behaviour up a bit.

  • ShadowX
    ShadowX

    S'funny, I was chatting to my kid sister last night (who da'd recently) and the main thing I noticed was a lack of maturity especially when related to sexual relationships. She's not particularly grown up anyway despite being 21 but has a very stunted view of male/female relationships overall, not just in relation to sex but in the way she operates around men. It's almost as though the witnesses remove any chance of operating in a normal social environment so kids don't know how to relate when they break free. I know I wasn't so devoid of social skills but I do remember feeling awkward around people and finding it difficult to work out how to start conversations for quite some time after leaving the dubness.

    Common story, so many inside are incapable of relating to oposite sex naturally, no wonder there are so many weirdo in

  • ShadowX
  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    ShadowX - the witnesses definitely afflict your social skills - I can vouch for that. However I think my parents relationship (a solid one - they are on their 30 something anniversary this month) was more important to me in terms of developing my relationships with the opposite sex than the witnesses. So I've had two long relationships since I left (and lots of adventures in between)What was your parents marriage like?

    Don't worry though - your sister will eventually learn the ropes, just be there to cushion her mistakes. When do you think you will get the hang of relating to the opposite sex?

    (crumpet running away from a big thump from New Zealand)!

  • ShadowX
    ShadowX

    ShadowX - is it perhaps a long time since you had any "immorality" yourself?

    No Crumpet, I'm quite happy with my sex life, thank you very much

  • ShadowX
    ShadowX

    What was your parents marriage like?

    Dad was great and still is (never jw), mom started being cool once she left (but at that time I was already 18)

  • Krystal
    Krystal

    I was DF'ed for being un-repentant... what was my sin?

    the "F" word... Fornication of course! lol

    Although if I was on "trial" now there would be a long list:

    -Smoking prohibited plants

    -Speeding Excessively

    -Homosexuality

    -Fornication

    -Idolatry

    -Excesses of Wine

    -Consulting a spirit medium

    -Speaking out against the "Faithful and discreet slave"

    ... the list goes on and on!

  • integ
    integ

    I know a few..

    I was disfellowshipped for having sex with a farm animal....I can't tell you which animal it was though. I need to protect its identity.

    Thanks,

    Integ.

  • tijkmo
    tijkmo
    i must admit that i was half praying that this would be the verdict in the hour that they left me waiting in the library

    2 mins they took to decide i wasnt repentant for porniea..........and they were wrong

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