How Do You Discern If Someone Is Telling The Truth or Lying? (page 2)

franklin J

...usually their nose will grow....

Frank...of the Roman nose class

TheListener

If you don't say what I want to hear you're lying.

upside/down

I found until recently I gave people the benfit of the doubt.

A nun told us when we were kids at Catholic school that she would always believe us no matter what.... until she found out we had lied. Then that trust was revoked..... so she encouraged us to be truthfull as possible with her anyway. It seemed to work.

However, I'm older and (i hope) wiser now and have been taken by so-called pathological liars... these guys are unbelievable. They all belong in advertising and sales. They believe their lies TO THE MAX... you can catch one with his hand in the cookie jar and he'll deny it even though caught in the act! They are a different breed... and unfortunately I learned the hard way.

Oh yeah, they just happened to be ELDERS!

u/d (of the my foundation has been rocked class)

rebel8

In the case of dubs using theocratic strategy, notice if you ask a straightforward question and get an answer that dances around the subject instead of answering it directly. If you keep repeating your question and get the dance a few times, followed by a response, the response may be a lie.

love2Bworldly

Sometimes people become agitated and angry if I question them about something he/she said and then I know something is up. (I have experienced this with my spouse and kids.)

minimus

Blondie mentioned that pathological liars are the toughest to discern because they actually believe their own lies! Amazing?Jim, good points about culture, children and shyness. I always listen to the reason why a person did or didn't do something. Then I will follow up in asking specifis. Usually, liars get tripped up in what they said. Time sequences and details are things that I pay attention to.....When talking to a person, I do look at eyes and mannerisms.

LongHairGal

Sometimes you can tell and sometimes you can't - depending on how practiced the liar is. With a child it is easier to tell. With an adult it is harder. The funny thing is nobody wants to deal with a liar - not even another liar! But we all sometimes tell a fib or two. The acceptable lies are to spare somebody's feelings. The problem arises when the lying extends into every area. You know the type: ask me no more questions and I'll tell you no more lies! I don't know how a person like that could stand him/herself. They would have very few friends.

LHG

minimus

"Nobody wants to deal with a liar"-----good one! Even other liars don't trust such a one. When a person lies, they cannot be trusted. Because, you never know.

New Worldly Translation

liars get tripped up in what they said

There's a saying that to be a good liar you have to have a good memory.

I think a lot of detecting if someone is lying or not is just intuition. Naturally we pick up on speech inflexions, mannerisms etc that hint to us that people are lying to us from experience we've gained through life. Most mothers are especially good at it when sussing out their kids, they're like polygraph machines with a perm.

minimus

My intuition must be good.

How Do You Discern If Someone Is Telling The Truth or Lying?

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