Everyone deserves a funeral....surely!!!!

by Gill 22 Replies latest social family

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  Gill

  Hi All and thanks for your thoughts. When something like this happens you wonder whether your own reaction is an over reaction or the way it should be. Everyone I've spoken to about this has been equally shocked and surprised.

  IT Support - Too right about them being worried that we might have inherited all the money!!

  iggy-the-fish - Absolutely true. I've never been at a funeral that I've regreted having made the effort to show my respect at.

  Delilah - I wish I could say that your sort of experience is rare but sadly it seems to be far to common. People go totally nuts with excitement at the thought of an elderly person with some money that they can fleece. Over the last few years grandpa has been paying out thousands of pounds to hubbys parents and his sister to 'help with their mortgages'. We made a point of never asking,but Grandpa made a point of saying he would remember that we had never taken advantage of him and that's good enough for us. It doesn't take away the pain of the thought that he didn't necessarily have to die the way he did and especially not with just strangers around him. He was put in a home hundreds of miles away from family.

  BluesBrother - On 'not bothering' it certainly takes our breath away, but they were always jealous of his money and it showed in the way they treated him. He was NEVER in the last twenty years invited to stay at their home, round for dinner or anything and they used his seaside home as a free holiday home while he was in the care home. So much for JWs being the only true christians.....NOT!
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  Lois

  I'm so sorry about your grandfather and the way he was treated in the hospital. Was an autopsy performed on him? If it was then you may be able to get a report and get legal advice concerning the severe neglect he received in the hospital. To honor his memory I would see that this hospital answered questions in a court of law concerning his 'treatment', illnesses, etc.and how he became in such a state to have gangrene from bed sores. This is completely inexcusable and a violation of your grandfather's rights. Since he was cremated it would be impossible to obtain any evidence of his neglect, therefore you need legal aid to help you with some form of resolution and restitution. Any persons who saw the bedsores would be of great assistance if you decide to fight for your grandfather even though he is no longer here. Please don't let this treatment he received slip through the cracks because then you never know who will be a victim next.
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  Doubtfully Yours

  So sorry to hear this happened.

  DY
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  Gill

  Hi Lois, DY,

  An official complaint has gone to the hospital about Grandpa's health when he came out of hospital. No one should have gangrene from neglected bed sores. So far, the hospital say he was in this state because he would not eat anything at all and had given up. Neglect comes in many forms.
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  Charisma

  This is so sad. I am so sorry for you and your husband and for his grandfather. What a sad way to have one's last days. How people can live with their selfishness, I do not know
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  GetBusyLiving

  Gotta love those crazy Joe Hoes.. their stupidity knows no bounds. "What would Jesus do?".. yeah, blow me.

  So sorry to hear this Gill.

  GBL
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  core

  One moral of this tale is to beware of signing an EPA (enduring power of attorney) as if at some time you do lose your faculties the person granted the EPA can do anything they like as long as they have registered the EPA with the Court of Protection - when making an EPA you can define exactly what your attorney has or does not have the power to do on your behalf. As a byline in the UK I would suggest that all married couples, who, either one or both of them have individual (not joint) bank accounts, grant an EPS to their partner so that they will be able to access funds if cases of any emergency.
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  Preston

  (((Gill)))

  This goes down in preston's list of one of the most heartless things I've ever heard. The 'hova's sure do take care of their own..don't they

  - Preston (still pissed class)
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  TresHappy

  Almost the same thing happened to ex-brother-in-law's grandmother. Pretty much everyone forgot her, and when she died alone in the rest home, she wasn't found for hours. She was cremated and there was no service for her. These people aren't JW's, just a bunch of cruel assholes who only care about money...
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  Gill

  Hi All and thanks!

  TresHappy, as you say 'Money'. That has been the cause of all of Grandpa's woes, his daughter being desperate to get hold of her inheritance. She has moaned constantly about her inheritance for the last twenty years that I can remember. Why was her father still alive?! You'll see, he'll be one of 'those' that just goes on and on....! The deceit involved in getting Grandpa to sign the EPA was horrible. She told him that the form the solicitor was signing was so that she could get food for him when he got back into his own home. The first solicitor listened to hubby and went straight back to the hospital, reassessed Grandpa and realised he'd been conned himself. The EPA was ripped up there and then. The second solicitor tried to cover his own back and would not go back to see Grandpa. We could have taken things furthur but mother in law promised solemnly to everyone that she was taking Grandpa back to his own home. She did! He was in his own home for three weeks. Then she went on holiday and put him in a care home. He had one more week at home and then never came out of the care home again. We were all conned.

  With the money, who knows what she's done. Grandpa's house is in a very poor state!