Love (page 3)

funkyderek

How many times can a person truly fall in love in a lifetime?

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I also believe that those special persons called soul mates do exist and between them there is no doubt an unusually strong chemistry, I experienced this but ofcourse it happens with very few women out of the total I happened to meet in my life.

As to how many you can fall in love with it depends the first one could be the last one and it's better if he/she is. Falling in love and striking relationships/marriages and then breaking apart always gives a lot of grief.

JW83

I don't know about the soulmate concept - and do you mean love or falling in love?!

btw, nice pic, EF! Your hubby is a very lucky man! (And yes, I said HUBBY )

Dragonlady76

I think we can fall in love with many people, but the love will be a little diffirent with each. I used to think that their was one true soul mate out there for everyone, but I'm not so sure anymore.

DL76

John Doe

"How many times can a person truly fall in love in a lifetime?" The answer is contingent upon your definition of love. You use the phrase ?truly fall in love,? so I?ll assume you?re speaking of romantic love.

Just what is romantic love? Many I?ve known equate sex with love?at least verbally?although few are so blatant as to call sex ?true love.? However, I think every human has an idealized picture of love in his or her heart, one that men are reticent to discuss and women are hasty to dream about.

What is this idyllic love? The lover in all of us has visions of a partner who knows us better than anyone else, knows our accomplishments and achievements and our failures, appreciates our strengths and accepts our weaknesses, and shares many of our interests and pleasures. This person shares the innermost nuances, fears and thoughts that are never uttered to anyone else, knowing that we?ll do the same. This lover doesn?t try to repair all the problems we have, but always listens and supports. This is the love we all secretly yearn for, and our hearts tell us that this is the only ?true love.?

So, I ask, not how many times a person can fall truly in love, but how many people can fall truly in love even one time? After all, no one I know lives in the movies. How many truly have one person they share their desires and quirks and iniquities and aspirations, and this person alone?

Few. One of my favorite quotes is "One friend in a lifetime is much; two are many; three are hardly possible? Henry Adams. A true lover is even more sporadic, because a true lover must be more than a true friend.

Where does this leave us? Our hearts desire the pinnacle of human relationships, our minds desire security, our abilities most often counter both. We?re left with the cold, hard realization that true love, if we?re thinking much about it, has already become unobtainable. After all, a mind preoccupied will always skew the course, and romance defeats itself when consciously considered. No, we have crossed the line into infatuation, a false true love which afflicts nearly everyone. With infatuation, we lose our self-respect, our honor, our reason, our goals, our life in general. True love will never inter the same emotions that build it, for such interment is inevitable death and suffocation for our mind and spirit. True love is not cognizant of true love, for happiness does not contemplate happiness; neither is it privy to sorrow. Rather, sorrow dreams of happiness, murdering happiness, becoming immortal when we grant free reign to our sorrow.

Even still, the hopeless romantic in all of us dreams of our true love, feeling a soft pulse in harmony with our own in the clutched hands of true friendship. Our mental scrutiny sentences our romances to death, but the full moon on a summer?s eve with soft zephyrs caressing the damp mosses and whispering our souls into oblivion will always call our name.

Be thankful if you have truly loved once.

doofdaddy

Wow, hard not to get philosophical...I have found that romantic love ebbs and flows, while love for my children is constant, unconditional. It came to me once in a flash of clarity that romantic love is trading. Sounds callous, but would you stay in a relationship where you get less in return?

On the other hand, ain't love grand? Bring it on!

Generic Man

For me, love is probably going to be like death and sex. Once in a lifetime. (I stole that joke from Woody Allen. Shame on me.)

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