by pratt1 10 Replies latest jw friends
Just wondering:
Do you every regret the way you treated or shunned faders, d/a, or d/f people in the past while you wonder under the influence of the "cult".
If so have you every gone back to any of those people said that you were sorry?
I ask because there are a few people in my past that I discarded so easily and quickly, I am really conidering tracking them down in the hopes of making amends.
I don't know if it would do any good, but I know that I would feel better.
They would be total robots if you tracked them down and said you were sorry and they didn't espond. I think it's a good way to ma,ke you feel better, and change your opinion of yourself.
CG
I have located one or more of person(s) but won't go into detail to protect their identity(ies) here on this public forum. I have indeed apologized for any mistreatment on my part in the way of shunning, and also for other rude behavior involving various forms of judgment, deceit, and basically unChristian acts while under cult influence. I apologize again here publicly and hope you will continue to forgive me for my past mistakes. I was so blind.
Tammy
For the most part I never really shunned anyone. I wish I had done things more publicly with my sister, but she never asked me to either. But we never stopped doing things together.
And as for others in the cong I attended who were dfd I never shunned them either. I remembered early in my marriage what it was like when my ex was dfd and the whole family was treated like the plague.. but one brother (and elder at the time ... BUT no longer a JW now), both he and his wife smiled at us and said hello at the DC when we were at the hotel. I melted because most people ran to cross the street to avoid us. I never forgot both he and his wife's kindness.. Odd how they are both out now..
any way, because of that action and the opposite treatment by others, I never treated others poorly.
I have no regrets, as I never shunned anyone. I always felt it was the wrong thing to do, so I would go out of my way to speak to different ones and make sure they knew that I was their friend no matter what!!! After all, we are just humans,we all make mistakes , and we have no right to make another person feel like they are scum....
Dee
I feel regret over anything and everything I ever did in compliance with WTS rules. I have apologized to several people. The rest are individuals I have no way of contacting.
Regrets, I have had a few;
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption.
I planned each charted course;
Each careful step along the byway,
But more, much more than this,
I did it my way.
Do you every regret the way you treated or shunned faders, d/a, or d/f people in the past while you wonder under the influence of the "cult".
I guess I never kept the proper standards as a dub. Whenever I saw anyone who was df'd I always went out of my way to say hello and let them know I was thinking about them. And of course, having a brain that was washed with WT soap, I always added that they needed to come back to Jehovah.
My..how I have changed!
HappyDad
yes, i regret it. i will be contacting old pals that are df'd. they might not respond, but then again they might. i think it's worth it. it's such a shame, and so sad, the whole shunning business. everyone is a victim in the end, shunners and shunnees. and everyone needs to heal.
I think it's pretty easy to say that you've never shunned anyone, but did you still associate with the person as regularly and normally as you had previous to the announcement? That to me is the big thing. Most of my old dub friends who understand why I left will say hi to me in public and mutter a few words, and they don't feel guilty about shunning because they do this. They are still shunning. I don't get phone calls, I don't get emails, and I don't get invited out for beer and wings, if you know what I'm sayin'.
I had a really close old friend that DA'ed herself about five years ago. It broke my heart, I'm telling ya. But I shunned her. I didn't call her and I didn't write, I didn't do any associating with her of any sort. Now that I've DA'ed and have tried to rekindle the friendship things are different, she's a little colder with me. And I damn well deserve it.
GBL
