Close family members who are disfellowshipped........

by Tracy 13 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  Tracy

  I thank everyone for their input. In the past, I've only allowed my daughter to see them with my supervision. I've been there to try and protect her from them.

  Being a teen, she thinks she's old enough to protect herself now despite some major problems that have happened even with me to protect her. This letter basically told her they only put up with me until now because my daughter was so young and now they didn't want me around any longer. Can you imagine how they would react when they found out that my daughter is now interested in Wicca? I told my daughter that she would be "shunned" every bit as much as I was if they found out and her argument was that she could wear a "mask" for any time she spent with Grandma. See Grandma spends money on her that we don't have since I'm a single mom.

  This whole thing almost sounds like something an ex would do to mess with a kids head.

  I agree with you that it would not be a good idea to allow her to visit them alone. But how do you make that valid argument to a teen?

  Hurt and Frustrated,

  Tracy
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  eyeslice

  Officially, the stance is a hardline one. The hardline stance has been re-emphasised over the past few years.
  
  But as Blondie pointed out, how it is enforced can depend on where you are in the hierarchy. I know of a few elders whose hardline stance was dramatically changed once a close family member of theirs was disfellowshipped.
  
  Eyeslice
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  Dustin

  I have no close family. It's alright though I've learned to go on without them.
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  littlerockguy

  I knew of elders where I lived who still had 30-something year old kids living with them while they (the grown kids) were DF'd and nothing said about it but I had relatives decades ago DF'd for allowing the same thing so I guess they factor in different circumstances.