What would you do? Follow-up

pratt1

In an earlier post I spoke of a young relative who is 16 and pregant and wanted me to help her get an abortion without the knowledge of her parents.

Well I got the young girl to speak with her parents. I accompanied her. I wasn't 100% comfortable with my advice to tell her parents, because they are both dubs to the letter and dad is a hot head - he and I had numerous fights as kids growing up.

His temper and my temper - not a good combination.

My wife also came along to keep me in line.

The reaction of both parents was shock, hurt and although they wont admit it, embrassment over the "humilation" the family will suffer when this is obvious to everyone.

Dad's first respnse was - Get out of my house! I grabbed his daughter's hand and I said " go upsatirs, and pack a bag and come live with us." His wife intervened and eventually he relented.

There were a lot of tears, accusations, finger pointing at all sides, but after 4 hours, you could see that they really love one another and that they would try to get through this.

By the way, I stated in my previous e-mail that she was 3 months pregant - I was wrong, she is actually a week shy of 5 months.

Abortion is not an option.

The wives our taking her to a doctor this morning, she has had no pre natal care and she has a heart mermur? that could cause complications.

I think this worked out okay, but I am keeping the spare bedroom available just in case.

Next, her trip to the elders.

I'll keep you guys poted.

Please if you pray, say a small prayer on her behalf. I've always viewed her as the most fragile of my cousins and I am not sure of her emotion state.

Chia

I will absolutely keep this young girl in my thoughts. You have been wonderful to her. Even if her father doesn't do the right thing, it sounds like she has someone reliable in you, and that is definitely a good thing. She needs someone like you, she must feel so helpless right now.

Emma

I will keep her in mind and prayer as well, and for her to get away from the wts. No matter what she does she will never get out from the stigma of having "bastard" child. (That designation is one my family calls these beautiful children, and will not give any gifts to the child or the mother; such love and support.)

If she can get away from the borg she will be able to make something of her life. The real world will not hold her past against her.

Keep giving her your support; she'll need it no matter what.

Emma

RichieRich

Way to go. You have helped make this girls life livable and thats great. Tell her what her options are as far as the JC meeting goes. I'll defintiely kepp you all in the thoughts...

Soledad

poor girl. I will have her in my thoughts today.

It's hard enough being 16 and a JW. Being 16 and a parent?? That has got to be real hard.

desbah

i will definitely keep this young girl and her unborn baby in my prayers...it's hard enough to have a baby so young and with the mother's heart condition, this will be consider a high risk pregnancy.

i give my respect to you and your family for willing to support this child. handing to deal with this unpleasent situation with her family members takes courage and this young girl should not be punished any further...her unborn child is innocent.

let us know how any future developments....

BrendaCloutier

(((( Pratt1)))) You have been the best support any kid in a bad situation could have asked for. You did the right thing especially since abortion was not a option.

Keep on loving and protecting those you love, no matter what others think.

Hugs

Brenda

tijkmo

a recent awake article was on the subject of teenage pregnancies

it was a well balanced non-judgemental article

i did a survey in my ex-hall amongst the elders...less than half had read it

so when she comes to meet with the elders if that is what she is planning to do..make sure you have read it..she has read it..her parents have read it..and the elders on her commitee have read it

hope things work out for her..esp with the pregnancy difficulties

Ellie

you should be so proud of yourself for the love you have shown her.

the poor girl, I just hope that the elders and congregation go easy on her, it sounds like she doesn't need any more stress.

crazyblondeb

I was young when I got pregnant and had already left the JW"s. But that didn't stop them from trying to get in my business. Plus, I was on my own. Thank goodness you are there for her. Is there anyway you could be at the JC meeting? If nothing else, wait outside. Just let her know, walking out of a JC meeting IS an option. The last thing she needs is to be belittled. Which is what they will do.

She's in my prayers!!

shelley

What would you do? Follow-up

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