The parents walked in on this 11 year old boy with his 5 year old sister [ ]
I used to treat abuse victims and know they are often very disturbed by graphic discussion of rape and violence such as that contained in the above sentence. It even bothers me and I'm not a victim myself. Such words can trigger nightmares, flashbacks, or worse for victims. I don't mean to be bossy or anything DL--I know you were angry (rightly)--I know there are a lot of abuse survivors on this forum and I'm concerned about their well being.
I've seen others use similar wording and have had the same concerns then too.
When I did therapy groups with victims I would have a ground rule to use only non-graphic words such as molest, rape, assault, etc. Mentioning body parts, sexual acts, body fluids, etc. was off-limits.
BTW, based on my experience with victims and perps of all ages, I wholeheartedly agree their identities should not be protected. It does a terrible disservice to society. The only qualifier I would have is to not include anything that may be punishable by law but in reality is "normal", age-appropriate child stuff such as "show me yours and I'll show you mine". Stuff like that shouldn't be used to label someone as a perp.