Grunt:
I understand your feelings completely. Reading it brought to mind the different bible “studies” I conducted as a JW, and the conflicts they inevitably created whenever a family was involved. I cringe now when I think of the times I encouraged different ones to “put God (ie: the organization) first” – ahead of their own loved ones.
Jesus’ own words where used to justify this: “For I came to cause division, with a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a young wife against her mother-in-law. Indeed, a man’s enemies will be persons of his own household. He that has greater affection for father or mother than for me is not worthy of me; and he that has greater affection for son or daughter than for me is not worthy of me.”
Now, at this time, I don’t claim to have any real understanding of what the hell he was talking about, but I can’t imagine that practicing any philosophy which destroys familiar relationships can somehow be reconciled with his other commands emphasizing love.
I was part of a divided household myself. I can hardly speak of the deep regret I now feel for having put so called “spiritual things” ahead of my own family, who didn’t happen to share my beliefs; despite my many attempts to coerce them into becoming JW’s. My relationship with my son was effected the most. If you’re not in the borg, or somehow impacted by it, it’s hard to appreciate the pressure they bring to bear, and the tensions they create in a household.
There are principles in the bible that can help one to have a decent family life. When these same principles are espoused by men who conversely twist and mold the lives of their followers to the division of loyalty between a father and son, etc, it becomes a crime of the highest magnitude.
I can only hope that some day your daughter will see the light. Until then, the exercise of patience is your only option. Once you become a dub, there is the immediate pressure to make the congregation your family, and to disown all who are outside of it. It is a control technique, pure and simple. The boomerang like consequences of this loom large later, when one tries to leave the org. And they find they’ve alienated their former loved ones. Please try to keep your heart and your arms open. People wake up and depart from this cult every day. It does happen. In the mean time, keep doing your best to warn others of the danger. Success in this regard in the best revenge.
Regards,
Copernicus