Serious or casual relationships?

greendawn

What do you believe is better, the traditional serious marriage attitude of total and permanent commitment or the lighter and more casual approach to relationships?

stillajwexelder

As an 18 year old - casual

As I have grown older -settled , monogamous and married

Bit like alcohol really

In my late teens gallons of beer and loads of shots

Later on in life a fine Californian Cabernet

In a simple sentence - depends on ones time of life

It's correcct that the more casual approach goes with immaturity and in my view it doesn't work very well in the long run.

By the way is that a Cabernet Sauvignon that you enjoy? One of the E & J Gallo wines which are well known in the UK?

arrowstar

It would be nice to have a seriously casual relationship. Or is that a casually serious relationship? I can never get that straight.

I believe that it is very difficult to find someone that will be able to give the happy ever after forever and ever amen kind of relationship that will last. Look around and see how rare that kind of relationship is on the whole. I think it takes a certain level of maturity to know what you want and to find a match of equal wants. I want my partner to be as happy with the relationship as I am. If it's too much one way or the other....something's not right.

It's really hard to explain and I'm probably not making much sense. If I could find someone looking at life with the same perspective as I am, then I would want to have a relationship with that person. However, what is one man's serious relationship may be another man's casual relationship.

Lisa

stillajwexelder

By the way is that a Cabernet Sauvignon that you enjoy? Oh yes but I do like Merlots also and even some Zins

One of the E & J Gallo wines which are well known in the UK? No I prefer Napa and Alxeander Valley myself - a little more expensive but good

nowisee

my first relationship was with lst husband - the bethelite....a disaster.

after leaving him (and wts) let's just say i had my share of, uh, casual relationships.

after 12 years of doing personal ads i met mr. right and am about to celebrate my 17th anniversary. it is wonderful. so warm and cuddly and safe and nurturing to body and soul. it is as i would want it and i cannot imagine it being any better.

nowisee

and oh, i forgot.

you guys should all go see "sideways" and discover the joys of pinot noir.

rocketman

Probably something in between - if a happy medium is possible.

One thing that bothers me about people who are into the total commitment thing is that many of them get jealous at just about every little thing. If a guy/girl can't trust the other person, then all he/she is doing is undermining the very relationship they claim to hold so dear.

Es

I think for some relationships work better, and for others cas is better. Sometimes i feel that im not meant to be in a relationship as I have very high standards that both my serious relationships just havnt lived up to. Or more the fact that I now know what danger signs to look out for and i see it in my fiance so im thinking that perhaps its me, maybe my personality doesnt allow me to get close to or trust people es

doofdaddy

Speaking from the perspective of being nearly 50 and from having both long term, short term and very short term relationships(ha) I reckon the best for me will be to have a monogomous relationship but not live together. I would take the relationship seriously but be casual in the day to day business making the time together special and mutually agreed upon.

Any takers?

Serious or casual relationships?

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