by greendawn 34 Replies latest jw friends
This gives me an idea....
My last will and Testament
TO my wife, I leave everything. But only on the condition that she must read CoC and that she DA herself within one year of my death. After a period of no less than 3 years of being officially DA'd, may she collect any monies left by me. She must then form a trust which will pay for all hosting costs of JWD for the next 10 years.
I have a daughter that elected to disassociate herself from the family. This was done with little consideration to the family.
I have made a trust of which my other child will be a part of. My JW child will get a letter detailing my thoughts about what she has done and why I elected to do what I did. She aparently is a fanatic in the cult and as such there is no way I could justify leaving her one penny because I cannot help but know it will all eventually go to the WTS. It hurt when she elected to reject the family and equally hurts to leave her out of my will. Both my children will get a letter outlining what I think of them and the reasons for my actions or reactions. I am sick to my stomach when I just think that my baby daughter has treated us this way. This feeling will never go away. Her actions were unacceptable.
My mother died last year. She had been living with a young JW woman and helping her for many years. This girl was like a daughter to her. When she died, she left her mobile home and most of her possessions to this young dub. This girl is now 24, she has living parents but her family situation was not ideal.
This situation was quite complicated as my mom had 3 children but we are all long faded from the borg. This caused her extreme distress throughout the years and included some years of shunning.
She did leave the family photos to us and we are grateful for this. But, my brother could really have used that mobile home. He left the witnesses later than my sister and myself. He has learning disabilities, physical and social difficulties that have made it hard for him to earn a living. In addition, we all live in N. California where the cost of living is extremely high.
It's true our parents don't really owe us anything. It's also true that my mom and this young dub were extremely devoted to each other. But as you all know, that is only the surface of the story when you are talking about the JW's.
I am trying to accept the decisions that my mother made during her life, and while she was dying. So that I can find some peace and move on. But it is so painful still, that she chose a religious organization over her three children and five grandchildren. I know she thought she was choosing Jehovah.
Eva
I think if the parents are devout JWs' they'll prpbably not leave anything to the kids & rather leave it to the borg - let's make them richer.....like the damn borg doesn't have enought already. I'm not leaving anything to any of my witness family - If I'm dead to them then they don't need anything from a dead person.
I disagree with the "you don't owe your kids anything" line.
You brought them into this world and it's your responsibility to care, love and provide for them, this never stops, even when your children grow into adults, you never stop being a parent. Obviously I understand that when the kids grow up they can get a job and provide for themselves, but if at any point my kids needed $ I would provide them with it. My take is this; By saying you "don't owe your kids anything", your condoning the WT stance by withholding love and affection from them if they were to become DA or DF'd. Just my .02
DL76
If my daughter were to stay with the WTS I know that, in her obvious frame of mind, all her inheritances would go to the WTS. I would turn over in my grave if this were to happen. I love my daughter beyond belief. However, the attitude she has taken toward her parents and the rest of the family is not something to reward her for. She is at the Paterson compound and we help her with things that would be difficult to trade into cash. If she is ever in trouble our door is open to her under all circumstances, but I will not finance the WTS.
How long has the borg asked for money from estates? It's been a long time since I have been associated (about 20+years), but I don't recall this at all. My
parents are asking my sister if she wants their house. She is the only one in the same town. She doesn't really want it. With all of this talk about willing
to the borg, I am now worried. They are less than semi-active. But still are firm believers. (At least mom is)
You brought them into this world and it's your responsibility to care, love and provide for them, this never stops, even when your children grow into adults, you never stop being a parent. Obviously I understand that when the kids grow up they can get a job and provide for themselves, but if at any point my kids needed $ I would provide them with it. My take is this; By saying you "don't owe your kids anything", your condoning the WT stance by withholding love and affection from them if they were to become DA or DF'd. Just my .02
My parents went without new clothes or any luxuries for years so that I could always have new clothes and shoes, books, toys and holidays. They worked hard to provide me with a safe home. They have never shunned me. If they were shunning me now, I would have even less desire to inherit from them. If they would not speak to me now they are alive, why would I want their money when they are dead? I do not condone the WT policy of alienation of parents from children, siblings from one another, for one second. People of all backgrounds choose not to leave their estates to their children for all sorts of reasons - sometimes reasonable, sometimes misguided, spiteful or petty. I still maintain that it is not the right of any person to inherit their parents' estate.
Holy double post, Batman!! Well, posts make prizes, this bit of fluff all goes towards my popularity status.
