Hondo wrote: "Some may take this the wrong way, as it may sound a bit glib, and I apologise in advance if this is the case and I offend anyone, but my ex-wife truely believes, no matter that she can't explain why (and maybe this is my answer. she believes "just because" she was told to believe), that Jesus did come to earth and chose her new found group as "the group."
In trying to understand this, you have to try and put yourself in the mind of a JW, the way a JW thinks. A JW doesn`t see it as if "Jesus came to earth and chose his new found group as "the group". JWs see their religion as welcoming people all over the world and of all races INTO their group. They believe that THEY have the one and only correct interpretation of the Bible, and that this means that "they" chose God, not the other way around, and that God is pleased with them for having found the correct interpretation. God was, in a way, just waiting for someone to interpret the Bible in the correct way, and that this group would go out an convert all of humanity into seeing the Bible the same way as they do. They believe, in a way, that they are the new "chosen people", as the jews (who were the original chosen people) rejected the Messiah, and all christianity since then (apart from perhaps the early christians) read the Bible in the wrong way.
I am sorry about your wife, and I can also relate to that issue. My mother also "found" JWs, while her first husband rejected their faith/saw right thru it. They started having problems in their marriage due to this, resulting in him committing adultery, and then they divorced. They got into a custody battle about their three children (my halfbrother and two halfsisters), and the dispute went all the way to the high court, the first case of its kind in my country! My mother won the case, as the court decided that a persons religious beliefs could not be grounds for loosing custody of her children. There were other things involved to, of course, my mother had remarried by then, to my father, a JW who was an abusive tyrant-bastard,he`s dead long time ago, thank God. Anyway, the case boiled down to the religion (thanks to my mothers lawyer, sort of a judicial diversionary tactic), and she won the case. After my halfsisters and halfbrother were grown, they have said that, all in all, they wish their father had won their case. And I agree with them, as my father, their stepfather, was a real bastard, I spit on his grave. Anyway, I wish you good luck. Do you have any children? If so,and if you find yourself in the same predicament my mothers first husband did, NEVER give up the custody fight.