Manners Maketh Man

LouBelle

I remember this being drilled into me from very small. To always have manners. Having manners effects so many aspects in life. I find in this day and age that people in general just couldn't be bothered with the "please & thank yous" anymore. There are no more "excuse mes" when people try get passed, you just get shoved aside. People stand in your way seemingly having no idea they are blocking yours & others path & when you say excuse me, you are looked at as if you've done something wrong.

The lessons most of us learnt in the playground: Don't hit, share, say please & thank you, wash your hands after the loo, greet people, seems to have been lost & because of this people are more selfish - only worried about themselves & how they can benefit from any given situation , and how they can come out tops. People don't seem to be concerned about their fellow man any more. And that's the adults.

Our kids are even worse (not that I have one myself but I look at my brother) They can't even entertain themselves. They always need to have this or that latest game, or latest gadget and aren't grateful when the get it.......

I'm disappointed in mankind. Why can't people just have manners........

*end of rant* *bow*

PaulJ

I know what you mean, and I agree. Where I live its still quite friendly, but in the past I have lived in towns and cities and people just arent interested in being polite or at least courteous. Personally I always make a point of trying to be polite, it just the way I was brought up (thanks mum!!)

Evanescence

I understand what you mean loubelle!

And you have those people who mis-behave just to show off too.

And those little ones who through tantrums over not getting what they want all I hear is "I want" "I WANT!!!!!!!" argh!

Evanescence *don't you just hate it when people Fart in esculators class*

iggy_the_fish

Looks like the love of the greater number is cooling off

ig.

katiekitten

The kids I teach are pretty poor with their manners, but they are VERY quick to get angry if they think you have 'DISRESPECTED' them - whatever that means. They dont have the first clue about respect, but they know how to demand it.

I tell them 'I know im JUST a teacher so I dont register on your scale, but I am still a human being, and you will find life is easier if you can treat other human beings nicely'.

When I do get a kid that uses manners I always make a point of saying 'what beautiful manners you have'. Thats why my daughter has such lovely manners - I tell her good things about herself and then she does them - self fulfilling prophecy.

greendawn

That is unfortunately the spirit of the times people are a lot less sociable and a lot more self centred than they used to be, perhaps because the nature of society has changed, in the city you don't know most people, you live mainly in anonymity and there is an emphasis on making money in order to be someone, why should the neighbour or colleague have a better car or house or dress better?

Sad emo

I reckon lack of manners comes from having too many rights and no responsibility. Neither can operate properly without the other.

Possibly to this end, parents are exercising their rights without being responsible for their offspring, then the child grows like their parents, expecting their rights and not learning responsibility, but also due to their parents neglect, they may lack self-identity and self-respect, thus struggling to identify with and respect others also. That becomes their norm until people like katiekitten come along and show them the alternative.

We seem to live in a world which wants everything now, we have a generation which has 'lost' its past and future, I reckon thats why our children have no imagination and sometimes little ambition, they don't know how to think or plan ahead - only how to get through the present moment.

katiekitten - keep up the good work, we need more teachers like you

doofdaddy

There is a gentle art in helping children learn manners. It is part of civilised life that takes time and example, both in short supply today.

It is our challenge to defy public apathy and reset the guidelines. Any takers?

rebel8

I am big on manners too. The world would be a better place if people would learn how to be polite. Of course I'm guilty of being impolite from time to time, just like everyone I suppose.

Here's a funny site for ya. They have a forum too. www.etiquettehell.com

diamondblue1974

Completely agree here...manners do maketh the man or woman for that matter and this has degenerated through the years; I remember being told not to kick my ball against a wall when I was a kid by the buy who lived there...I wasnt pleased but I moved on and found another wall to play against....these days that guy wouldve been lucky to escape a tirade of foul abuse from a kid my age.

Mental note...instill manners into my children.

DB74

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