I remember once a df'd sister had a flat tire after the meeting and everyone was ignoring her. Then one brother went over and changed the tire for her.
People were looking at him like he was doing something wrong, and he was looking back with a look like "I dare you to get me into trouble for this.
As far as I know, nobody did anything to him about it.
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by greendawn 17 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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thom
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Bonnie_Clyde
A sister in our congregation was disfellowshipped a few years ago. She had two small children, and another sister invited her children to come over to play with her children. This sister saw nothing wrong with talking to the disfellowshipped mother as long as it related to the children. At the time I was a loyal dub and was surprised. However, it dawned on me how much those children really needed the association. It never occurred to me to complain to the elders, but I bet some would have if they had known about it.
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damselfly
Sadly I can't think of anyone or anything. Unless you count the free babysitting for single sisters that my mother volunteered me for repeatedly.
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jula71
The problem is, almost everything is done with an ulterior motive. Everything is for show. I can't count how many "good deeds" were followed by "let's use this to expand the ministry!"
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greendawn
They helped me when I moved to a new town as a student to find accomodation quickly in a jw house with a very decent rent. I was paying what other students were paying for a room but the family were also giving me a nice meal each day included in the rent price.
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TooOpinionated
We always helped each other move, which is quite a big deal.
When my grandmother was dying, we moved her into our home instead of a nursing home for her final months. My husband and I were both working full-time, and she needed round the clock care. We had some family help, but still needed a few blocks of time covered. 2 sisters volunteered their time, and it was a godsend. We showed our appreciation by making sure they were financially compensated for it, and this was after the fact. They didn't do it knowing there would be money involved. They did show a loving spirit.
Of course, these same women stick their noses up in the air when they see me now, but I still remember how they helped us in our time of need.
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Jahna
When I was pregnant with my second I was put on bed rest (I was very close to losing her). Not easy having a two year old running around and living in the country. One sister came by every Tuesday and cleaned my house for the book study that night. She even took all my laundry and within a few hours I had everything back, shirts even pressed. She was such a wonderful lady. She was also the first and only Witness who really did any act of kindness during this time (but for some help from family who lived over an hour away), or after. The rest of the congregation, well, didn’t even call. They even stopped having the service meeting on Wednesdays because I couldn’t go out. It wasn’t even out of the way, I could see the houses of everyone who went out from my driveway, guess it was too far. Little did they know, I really looked forward to the spiritual time, and company. The sudden stop without reason left me depressed. What the real killer was, was having the whole sisterhood in the congregation help my mother in law (yes we were in the same congregation) make pickles (cause her back was giving her problems) yet not even a visit for me when I was stuck in the house for at least a couple of months trying to watch for my son. I made the stupid mistake of not missing a meeting, or the assembly, I guess. Shows what being spiritually strong actually means.
That time period of my life was ultimately the one that started me down the path of leaving.
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greendawn
You will come to know your real friends during a time of need, the jws don't seem to have an ethic for helping their own in their time of need though there are some exceptions among them. It's a very dry and emotionally ungratifying society it certainly has no christian spirit.