I have been writing 'my story' in bits and pieces here. This is how I got out.
I was on my way to a Tuesday night meeting. It was pouring out, one of the kids sick, JW husband wasn't going. I got in the car (this little hatch-back car was a loaner from the garage because our larger car was being repaired) I was stopped at a stop sign and I was on time for the meeting.
I heard something and turned in time to see something coming at me fast. It was a car that was backing up high speed out from a very long driveway. I could not move forward, nor backwards, so I tensed up and put my arms up and yelled 'NO'!!! She hit the rear end of the car and it spun. I thought I was OK. I got out, we exchanged papers and I felt 'funny'. I couldn't walk straight. I went to the meeting. I felt little popcorn type of jumping in my back, legs and arms. I told the Ministerial Servant who was conducting the meeting that night that I had to leave (and not stay and talk after the meeting) because I was not well. He looked at me and in a serious face he said 'YOU MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING AGAINST JEHOVAH FOR THAT TO HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU!!! I was floored!
I went home, JW husband told me to go to bed I looked fine to him. The next morning, I was sore from head to toe. I called my worldly sister in law to take me to the doctor. I had sprained my upper, middle, and lower back!! Twisting and being tense when the car hit caused a lot of damage. I was put to bed. The doctor wanted to hospitalize me. JW husband could not stand taking care of me and went home to his mother and decided to take 'time out'. We had a 6 year old child. So, no hospital for me. AND no pain killers so I could stay aware to take care of my son.
The elders visited to 'check out my injury' I could not sit with siatic pain. So, they decided that I could go to the meeting and sit on the floor or stand during the meeting!!! They would NOT record the meetings for me, nor send anyone to visit with me! They LEFT ME ALONE! I was so heartbroken and wondering what I had done wrong!!! I took physical therapy for 1 1/2 yrs. When a sister saw me at a store she called the elders and they knocked at my door. 'Are you ready to return to the meetings' I said 'Where were you when I needed you? Why did you all abandon me?' HE SAID 'OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND'. He asked again if I was going back. I said 'Well brother, now that I know you don't care about me and were not interested enough to call, then 'OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND'. He said to me "I don't blame you one bit, if you ever want to come back you know where we are'.!!!
So, I didn't have to decide how to get out, they showed me how! As a poster on this board said, they do not help anyone but Pioneers. My 20 hours a week didn't count, nor all the baby sitting I did so other moms could get out too without charging them! I would tell them they could bring their child's lunch to save me money and they rarely did that! That was all forgotten! I call them 'good time friends' if that. So, I had no temtation to return. I did go to a meeting now and then to see who was left. I would hear (I was not DF) about this one gone and that one. After 4 years, most of the original crowd there were divorced, out of the JWs, or moved away. There was 1/4th left and they seemed desperate to know me again. But, I walked out smiling knowing I was so far out of there and for good.
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