I went to a concert with a friend of mine last night, and spent a lot of the time amused at his and his friends' behavior. I LOVED the music, live music does it for me in so many ways, The show had Cracker, Danko Jones, and Carbon Leaf, all really reallly good bands, in an outdoor park. Anyway, I'm starting to get irritated form the nudging and hey, take a look over there's, and getting asked to go "trollin" for women. Which in and of itself isn't that out of the norm for single guys in their 30's I guess. But c'mon, what are you going to talk about with someone at a concert...maybe yell at each other about how you love the lyrics of "Live a life less ordinary" and how it relates to how you want to reach certain goals? Don't get me wrong, I realize you meet people at concerts, but the odds of just walking up to a woman and yell HELLO, NICE TO MEET YOU, and something coming of it are soooo far out there.
So anyway, that's not the point...just the set up. So we're on the way back, I'm just ready to get back home and leave the knuckle draggers to their own devices, and damn tired of being embarrassed by them looking every single woman from head to toe like she's a steak or something. So then the conversations gets going about relationships and relating to people, and I'm like hell, finally we get to have something of substance to talk about...wrongo. The two guys up front completely ruin my hopes in a matter of seconds, talking about maybe having some other people over, but then it's no, nah, no, not them based on HOW HOT THE WOMEN THAT WOULD COME WITH THEM WERE. I mean c'mon, is that all there is? Tell me there's got to be more than this? They even went so far as to talk about how there's no sense in having ugly women around for friends, much better off hangin around guys, that's what they're for anyway. Let the ugly b*tches hang with each other. I was so disappointed in the guy, because I had a lot of respect for him. I mean I can't even imagine the things I would not have learned, the laughs I would not have had, and the friendships I would never enjoy if I used that line of reasoning.
It's just such a shame, because everywhere we look that is all we see, it's all about perception, and not perception of thoughts or ideas or the substance that makes a person really great, but outward appearance. And yes, I agree, a person's appearance does tell you a lot about how they respect themselves and others, but to judge whether or not someone's friendship has value based on whether or not you find them attractive? Unbelievable.
I used to wonder why the guy isn't mobbed by women everywhere he goes...now I know.
WLG