HELLO need advice for college

tsunami_rid3r

OK, since i missed out on developing when i was 14-18, i'm gonna need help with girls, friends, keeping them, and just having fun. ==== RECAP for the past week: one day i hung out a with this dude from fish camp. i went to the gym with this girl and then we went on a midnight food run. then we went to eat free hot dogs with her friend, and then we saw a movie. next day, went to the gym with another dude from fish camp, and then i hung out with my residence hall and played games at the girl's hall. got a call and went partying with 2 girls. i called up the dudes, and we all drank at her apartment. next day, went to the court house. that night i went to this club by myself. i felt kind of lonely but i danced with a lot of girls and received no rejections. next day(today), i participated in this organization for minorities. rest tonight. ==== i've pretty much told myself no relationships til sophomore year. so i'll try my hardest to not fall for girls so easily now, but i would like to get laid finally. since i'm pretty much free to do whatever i want, and i have facebook.com, AIM, truck, and a cell phone at my disposal, and not to mention i made a few friends from fish camp and got some hot upperclassgirls' numbers. what should i do?

for example: i was invited to a frat party tomorrow night(if you read this later, tonight), what should i do?

ballistic

You need to stop asking us what to do.

misanthropic

Study really hard and get good grades. That is all that matters.

tsunami_rid3r

ballistic read the rest and i think you're just jealous. lol.

La Capra

I went straight to college after high school, and had to do the JW thing for a bit (one year, then I bailed on the witness thing).

I have two suggestions:

1) There is a counseling center at your school, and I think you should go down there and hook up with a counselor. It will help you to get all your history out with someone who specializes with your age group. Your plan to leave the past behind is understandable, but will keep coming back to bite you in the ass until you come to terms with it. If you don't get a grip, you'll start dropping balls before you get them all up in the air.

2) Regularly schedule some time every week to do something related to your future career...join professional organizations (there are almost always student chapters), read professional journals or magazines, connect with other students in your major, start looking into internships and summer jobs...(I envision a summer job for you that keeps you from going home for the summer).

The friend thing and the girl thing will work themselves out. When someone is doing things that are good for him, and that are healthy and productive, good people start coming into their life. Flitting around like a firefly is fun, silly and distracting, but as it seems you have noticed, it can be confusing as to who of these partymates is a true friend. Balance out your partying with activities that lend themselves to a productive outcome, so when there isn't a party, or other fireflies to flit around with, you have other interesting activities to keep you occupied.

Study hard, do well in classes, escape the cult and have a successful life.

tsunami_rid3r

1) i dont think i really need to see a counselor. i don't understand what you're saying, but i put the past behind me. the only thing is i'll have to go to a few meetings.

2) i was thinking of joining a frat next semester. i'm going to that frat's party tonight.

should i call up random girls and invite my "girlfriends" to come with me right now if its tonight?

and i either want to join this asian organization or an architecture organization.

the way my friend, who attended here during the summer, said to do it, is get every girl you meet's number.

so wash delicate close cold, wash others warm. wash white cold?

jeeprube

Just chill out man! Don't try to soak it all up in week. You've got four years ahead of you.

Don't let your grades slip due to partying, or the party will end early, and you'll be back home with mom and dad washing windows for a living.

tsunami_rid3r

but school hasnt even started yet, and its the weekend.

damselfly

1) i dont think i really need to see a counselor. i don't understand what you're saying, but i put the past behind me. the only thing is i'll have to go to a few meetings.

I disagree. It's not that I think you need to see a therapist for deep seated mental issues, but you ( and the majority of us here ) were raised completely different from our peers. I used to think that I was okay and had put the past behind me, but what I had really done was just buried it and now it's coming to the surface to bite my ass. I really encourage you to just go and introduce yourself to the counsellor. That way she has a bit of background in case you need to go later.

Your past is still your present as long as your parents are expecting you home for weekends and to be attending meetings. It can't be behind you while you are still in it. Please listen to what I am telling you.

You can wash whites in hot water, very good for sheets, and add bleach or get a detergent with colorsafe bleach already in it.

Dams

damselfly

Tsu~ Do you have any JW friends at the college? or at home? I mean ones that have been raised in it but want to leave like you do? They can be good support for you as well.

Dams

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