I'm a slow fade-a-way, so I don't have those experiences - yet.
But my df'd nephew visited with his wife & son last week. We invited them over for pizza & beer & good visit. His pioneer mother hasn't spoken to me since, and my mother in law avoided me for a week. I thought they were shunning me but it's not.......
My mother in law started speaking to me again this week. I think she was truly ashamed of her behavior towards her nephew & family. Not enough to change, but enough to be ashamed.
If I *choose* to be da'd (when they arbitraily do this to me) - I'm going to wave and say a big hellllloooo! to every damn jw I see.
Make them choose to be impolite, rude, bigots - in front of other people. Make them acknowledge their rudeness in front of people they're going to *visit* some day. It's not my sin - it's theirs.
*Worldly* people have no idea how jw's treat those who leave or disagree with them. By making jw's show publically how they behave in secret, it might take the sting out of shunning a little. If nothing else, make the jw act out his bigotry in the open before all onlookers. It it's not a sin - then let them be proud of their rude behaviour.
At least, that's what I *plan* on doing. Hindsight and never having gone through it - I can only hope that I won't just break down and cry.
waiting
