I should give some background before the question(s) for you all....
My older brother was born and raised a Witness. Left with the rest of us when my mom DAd herself although he was the one asking whether or not it was wise---after all the end might come. He was brought up with the whole women being inferior thing....or in the least there being whores and mothers and nothing else. He's changed some things but not everything. He's stated he doesn't think my sister should date because she has three kids although she's divorced and still in her 30s. He thinks that men are "visual creatures" and so prone to cheat and prowl although I know women aren't that much different. He even in the past few days said that some boots bought for our 7 year old neice were "too provovative" although there is nothing Brittany Spears about them....they're riding boots meant to go under jeans.
He announced yesterday he was dating a girl aged 21. He's in his mid thirties. He got defensive from the get go saying that he knew that young women tend to date older guys and that older women look at younger guys. He said that it was fact! I know when I was 21 --though even if a guy was good looking that there was something wrong with them and never thought of dating someone over 13 years older. THIS isn't to say that a relationship with someone 13 years older can't work....
My problem is that if it had been me or one of my sisters at 21 being involved with a guy 13 years older my brother would've have a problem with it...a serious problem with it. But it's okay when he does it. I hate the double standard he's trying to pull. I know he's got issues and it probably makes him feel good to have childin' want to date him and think he's great but come on!!!!
Any advice on how to deal with this...approach him??? Or any dissentinting opinions are welcome as well. Am I wrong in thinking he's a messed up jerk or am I overblowing this? Let me know, PLEASE! I'm ready to go off on him.....