I can't believe they shunned me... (page 2)

xjwms

Conditional Friends

Yep, ... thats been my take.

lawrence

They pride themselves in a brotherhood, where they are brothers thru thick and thin. The quote about "a brother born for the day of distress," what B.S.!

Pbanna

sorry you had to loose your friends. sound like a tough situation

Bryan

Sorry Smoky. I am in the same boat as you. Not DF'd or DA'd.

See my topic with my daughter's letter:

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/74715/1.ashx

This says it all: "You know enough about the Witnesses to know that I should treat you like a disfellowshipped person."

Bryan

Have You Seen My Mother

Es

so sorry smokey, its not suprising but really they shouldnt be shunning you if you are only inactive....but hey i know how that feels i am in the same boat.

As with the wedding business they will use the excuse you were baptized and you should know better.

I am getting married 2nd time round in Nov and my JW folks arent coming why??? Coz im marrying a "worldy" person and yet the have gone to a few worldy weddings themselves. The difference is i was baptized.

Once again sorry for the way you have been treated

es

CountryGuy

Hey Smoky,

Sorry you also have to go through this. My experience is that most of the JWs who shun me, I'M THANKFUL! The last thing I want to go through is the fake bull**** of "We miss you." "Come back to Jehovah." "Blah, blah, blah!"

However, there are a few people that everytime they avert their eyes or walk right past me, it does hurt. The first time it happened, it tore my heart out. Now, I know the game. They know the game. We go about our business. I just hope that my friends aren't as torn up by it as I am. Unlike most of the JWs, I still care about my friends and don't want them to be hurt by their perception of my actions.

Here's hoping that you make new friends very soon.

CountryGuy

upside/down

All fair in love and theocratic war...

Sorry...but that's what Dubs do...it's what they live for...

u/d(of the I'm shunned too...class)

in a new york bethel minute

yes smoky this happened to me recently... my best friend since i was a child got married in march. he had always told me that i would be his best man. i am not disfellowshipped and still associate with many jw's. of course i could not be in his wedding party because he wanted to have it in a kingdom hall. here's what it boils down to: FEAR OF MAN. that's it. that's all. they are so afraid of what people will think and say. they only want to please the elders. this friend of mine told me how much he wanted me in his wedding party blah blah blah. needless to say i have cut off contact with him because he did, not what his heart told him to do, but what the elders pressured him to do.

bethel

Smiles

Smoky,

If they have the wedding at the Kingdom Hall you can walk right in and attend the wedding because the Kingdom Hall is open to the public. They cannot turn you away or lay a hand on you if you want to enter a Kingdom Hall and observe.

You might have trouble trying to get into the wedding reception if the reception if off-site as they usually are. But you could try to attend the reception anyway.

kwintestal

Perhaps your friends haven't seen this on the official WT media website:

http://www.jw-media.org/beliefs/beliefsfaq.htm

Do you shun former members?
Those who become inactive in the congregation, perhaps even drifting away from association with fellow believers, are not shunned. In fact, special effort is made to reach out to them and rekindle their spiritual interest. If, however, someone unrepentantly practices serious sins, such as drunkenness, stealing or adultery, he will be disfellowshipped and such an individual is avoided by former fellow-worshipers. Every effort is made to help wrongdoers. But if they are unrepentant, the congregation needs to be protected from their influence. The Bible clearly states: 'Remove the wicked man from among yourselves.' (1 Corinthians 5:13) Those who formally say they do not want to be part of the organization any more are also avoided. What of a man who is disfellowshipped but whose wife and children are still Jehovah's Witnesses? The spiritual ties he had with his family change, but blood ties remain. The marriage relationship and normal family affections and dealings can continue. As for disfellowshipped relatives not living in the same household, Jehovah's Witnesses apply the Bible's counsel: "Quit mixing with them." (1 Corinthians 5:11) Disfellowshipped individuals may continue to attend religious services and, if they wish, they may receive spiritual counsel from the elders with a view to their being restored. They are always welcome to return to the faith if they reject the improper course of conduct for which they were disfellowshipped.

Kwin

I can't believe they shunned me...

Do you shun former members?

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