Does anyone feel like me???... am I obsessed.

zagor

I don't know if something is wrong with me or with entire setup of things. I mean every time I think about WTBS I get angry and frustrated which is beyond the reason. And most interesting part is I'm not getting any better, looks like I'm going nuts every time somebody mention anything even remotely related to WTBS. In fact it doesn't even have to be them, now whatever happens in the world I find parallel to how WTBS runs and does things. I'm afraid that aftermath of it all might be ruining my life almost as much as my time inside the borg.

This morning, for instance, my gf said "you have to get your acts together and move on or we are history. I've had other do hurtful things to me but I've moved on, mate you are obsessed with them..." Which was quite a shock for me. Mind you, she was never a JW but I can understand her frustration. On the other hand I can't understand myself and why all of this is so frustrating and important anyway. I mean I know it is important but why is it that I can't find balance when thinking about them, is beyond me since I don't have problem with others when it comes to that. I mean as she pointed I've had other people trying to screw me over but it doesn't become the major obsession.

stillajwexelder

Initially yes, but time is a great healer - the anger does fade

tfsm

I have to agree with the guy above. Time will take care of most of it. I was out a good five or so years (with zero contact with any of witnesses) before I could look at it rationally. Like you, I found parallels in everything and it was just because I didn't know anything else. I know it is hard but don't let it damage the good things your new life can bring you.

Lady Lee

Your anger is normal but it sounds like you need to know what to do with it and the reasons for it. I don't know if you have read these yet but they might help.

Using your anger to make positive changes http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/53831/1.ashx

Emotional Blackmail and JWs http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/31197/1.ashx

Mind Control Techniques and Jehovah's Witnesses

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/31235/1.ashx

Toxic Parents Toxic Religion 1 http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/59414/1.ashx

Toxic Parents Toxic Religion 2 http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/59448/1.ashx

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse - Part 1

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/59888/1.ashx

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse - Part 2

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/59937/1.ashx

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse - Part 3

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/60068/1.ashx

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse - Part 4

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/60069/1.ashx

Tigerman

I don't know if I'm obsessed with the WTS and the damage they have done to families everywhere, however, the fact that they have done this for so very long and have become extremely wealthy over the years, at the expense of others, crosses my mind daily.

el jarocho mayor

i always cringe when i see a watchtower

Frannie Banannie

Here's a post that might help.....the hyperlink to "3 parts: psych issues when leaving a restrictive religious group"

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/16/57203/842238/post.ashx#842238

Frannie

JW83

I still get huge feelings of anger, particularly if I hear something an dub ex-friend may have said about me or to me, or even thinking of them living their lives without me ... I am very angry that my friendships were conditional, that I wasn't given the opportunity to go to uni, or even to work full-time, or to travel, or to have real friends, or a boyfriend. I wasted 6 years of my life trying to pioneer. I am now 28, playing catch-up with education, finances & social life, not to mention emotionally/financially.

It helped that I wrote a thesis on the Witnesses in Australia (take that, Watchtower! ) & that my parents left about a year ago, so I now have them back. However, the pain of the shunning will always stay with me, as will my lack of trust in any relationship etc etc. I've been out for four years, completed my degree, married, had a baby, have made some good friends, but I still feel crippled and occasionally something will happen that will make me very upset again.

So good luck, and just try to work through the feelings. They are valid.

bikerchic

You're not crazy but you do as LadyLee mentioned need a way to channel your anger. One simple thing besides the stuff you'll read in the links she listed is to remember to be safe, legal and constructive with your anger.

Being safe means you have no right to harm another person, place or thing or yourself with words or in any other way.

Legal means you don't want to do anything which could cause you to land in the pokie.

Constructive means consider the person(s) around you and what they may hear or see you do with your anger, don't do things which would cause damage to a person, place or thing.

One way I handled my extreme anger was to drive out to the middle of the desert and throw rocks, yell, shout and scream until my voice went hoarse! Gawd pity the poor critters......it helped me I hope it will help you to just go off somewhere and let it all out. Remember in healing you can divide by 4 the number of years you were in the B'org and that should pretty much be how long you will work on your issues after to some lesser degree as the years go on.

FlyingHighNow

Your girlfriend should be more patient if she truly cares about you and what deeply concerns you. I agree that time will lessen the pain, since you're not a person who gets high from bitterness. It does help to know there are millions of exwitnesses just like you.

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