Here's the C&P'd posts from the xdub mailing list group......please notice how the thinking on this subject progresses.
First Yes,I'veseenthisguyonHannityandColmesbeinginterviewed. Lotsofcommonsensethereonhispart,buttheleftwingblacksjustdon'twanttohearit.
REPLY:BillCosbyhasthesameissueswithhispeergroup.....andmanydon'tlikewhathehastosayaboutiteither.
FIRSTRESPONDENT:: Exactly.Thesepeople,whethertheybeblackorwhite,orwhatever, havemajorsocialandmoralproblems.Theydon'thavethework
ethic,theyjustsitbackandwaitforotherstodothingsforthem.
Thatiswhatthegovernmenthasbeendoingforthemalltheseyears.
Justhandingthemhousing,money,food,etc....butitdoesn'tlift
themoutofpoverty.Theyjuststayinthatconditionbecauseall
theyhavetodoisjustsitthereandwaitforthegovernmenttogive
themwhattheywant.
I'veheardLarryElder(talkshowhost,KABCradio,who
isblack)saymanytimesthat75%ofallthethechildrenwhoare
blackarebeingborntounwed,singlemothers.Allthatdoesis
perpetuatetheproblems.Youngwomengivingbirthtobabiesthey
can'taffordandnofatherinthepicturetotakeresponsibilityfor
theoffspring.
REPLY: I'vehadtheopportunityto"experience"beingonAFDC(AidtoFamilieswithDependentChildren)whenIwastemporarilydisabled. Frommy"upcloseandpersonal" observationofthesituation,includinglivingingovernmenthousing, I'veseenwhatit'sliketoBEinthesituationandI'veseenwhatittakestogetoutofit,thoughIhadmoregoingforme,botheducationallyandjob-experiencewisethantheaveragewelfarerecipientsdo.
I'vealsoseenthenever-endingcyclingofmanywelfarerecipients,withtheir inabilitytosee HOWtogetout,andquitepossibly,thereISnowayoutformanyofthemwithoutbetterhelpthanthattowhichtheyhaveaccessfornow.
Inthefirstplace,theAFDCbenefitsvaryprettymuchfromStatetoState. Forinstance,in,AFDCgivestheparent(s)withdependentchildrenMedicaidandenoughmoneytopayrentandbasicutilities(lights,water,gas)andtobarelyfeedtheirfamily eachmonth. Thereisnothingextraforclothing,doinglaundry(plusthesupplies), schoolsupplies,transportationorbabysittingshould theparent(s)findajob. Prettyscarey,huh?
In,AFDCprovidesfoodstamps, Medicaidandmoneyforutilities only. Asfarashousing goes,you'reonyourown. Hopefullyyou'llbeluckyenoughto getonashortlistorhavesomeonetolivewithuntilyournamecomesupforhousing. Otherwise,it'sthestreets. Idon'timagineit'smuchbetterin,ifany.
Whilewelivedingovernmenthousing,Iobservedtheotherwomeninhabitingtheapartmentsinourcomplex. Theleast numberofchildren anyonehadwastwoandmanyhadmanymorethantwo.
Therewerenomenaround.....untilthefirstofthemonthrolledaround.....whenthewelfarecheckscamein. Andguesswhat? Thewomenwerebrokefromthelittletheyhadwhenthemenleftafterthefirstweek. I'msurethemenwereverypersuasive....andwhentheywereunabletopersuadesomeone,theywerealwaysstrongerandmeanerandcouldjusttakethemoneybyforceanyway. Manyofthewomenwereondrugsandwereprostitutingthemselves,sotheycouldaffordtogetbyuntilthenextmonth. I'msurethatnoneofthem evenfinishedhighschool,havingbegunthewelfarecycleofbabyafterbabywhileintheirteens.
Howdotheygetoutofthatcycle? Whereisthewayout?
Iunderstanditwouldbe reallyfoolishforthegovernmenttogivethemmorethanenoughtobarelyexiston,butthere HASTObeawayoutfortheseundereducated,overpopulatedfamilies. Theyneed tobetaughtHOWtobreakthecycle,togivetheirchildrenmorethanahopelessfutureofbeingcaughtonthesametreadmill.
SECONDRESPONDENT:WhenIlivedinthepeopleonWelfarehaditsomuchbetterthanthepeopleworking.
Ihademployee'swhowerecomingoffofwelfareandgoingtoworkaftergoingthroughtheCNAprogram. Thestatepaidfortheirchildcare,medical,andgavethemfoodstamps. Someevenhadpaidtransportationintheformoftaxiandbuspasses.
Mycousinwith3kidsrecentlydidthissamething. She'sstillgettingsection8housingassistance,andchildcarehelpandfoodstampseventhoughshe'sworking40hoursaweekatacarehomeasaCNA. Thekidsalsogettokeeptheirmedicalfromthestate. Shealsoqualifiesforfreelunchforthematschool.
ObviouslyasaCNAinshe'snotmakingmuchmoney...Ithinkshesaid$7.00anhourbutthestateisnot yankingawaytheirservicesandleavingherhighanddry.
Nowherein,XXX’s2sistersdidwelfaretowork. Onestillgetshousingassistance. Onewasgivenasupersuperlowinteresthomeloan. Bothgetchildcarehelpandfreemedical,dentalandfoodstamps.
REPLY: It'sshockinghowaFEDERALLYFUNDEDwelfare programvariessoHUGELYinitsbenefitsfromStatetoState!
THIRDRESPONDENT:****WhenIlivedinthepeopleonWelfarehaditsomuchbetterthanthepeopleworking.****
Iagree. Whenwelivedthere,thatwaswhenmymomwasonwelfare. Everytimeshetriedtogetajob,theywouldyanksomeofthebenifitsBUThadshegonetoschool-theywouldhavegivenhermoreincludingpayingforherschool. Atleastthatsystemwas(astsomepoint)workingtohelppeoplegeteducated. Butevenifshedidn'ttakeadvantageofthat,wehadbettermoneyifshedidn'tworkminimumwagejobs,allshewasqualifiedfor.
FOURTHRESPONDENT: You'reright.
I'mfrom3generationsofwelfareinmyfamily.MyGrandmotherhadit,mymotherandallauntshadorhaveit,Ihaditinhighschoolandstillgetfreemedical,myteenagepregnantcousinshasit.
MyGrandmothergot$400/monthforraisingme-asIwasn'therchild.Myjwauntwith4kidsby2fathersgot$700+foodstamps.Igotawhopping$250amonthtosupportmyselfinhighschoolandifyougetajobtomakeextramoneytheytakeitbuckforbuckfromyourbenefits.Make$500BEFOREtaxesatmyparttimejob?Ididn'tgetanywelfareforthenext2months. ItseasiertonotdoANYTHINGandgetmoremoney.Theydon'tteachthemrealworldskills.Theydon'thelpthemgetjobs.Ifyouareacapableworkingpersonthenyoujusthavetoshowyouwentto1jobinterviewORjobclassperweek.Whooptydoo.hmmmmm.$800for4hoursofworkamonth,IWONDER!LOL.Plus..............Manyofthemhaveillegalincomeslikedealingsotheyhonestlydon't
REPLY: That'stellingit likeitis.(shakeshead)Anditisn'tjustlimitedtoone
race,it'sthewholewelfarecommunityeverywhere.
THIRDRESPONDENT:
****BillCosbyhasthesameissueswithhispeergroup.....andmanydon'tlikewhathehastosayaboutiteither.****
WehadanassistantprincipalatthelastschoolXXXXtaughtat. Hisdaughterandourdaughterwereverygoodfriends. Hewasblack,marriedtoablackwomanthatworksattheBoardofEd. Bothverynice,welleducatedandmotivated. Theblackkidshatedhim,calledhiman"UncleTom"andsuch. Theysaidheloweredhimselfbymakingitby"whitiesrules"andsuch. Ican'tunderstandit. EveryonetalksabouttheAfricanAmericanbeingequal,improvingthemselves,findaplaceinthemiddleclassworldandyetwhensomeonedoesit,theyrejectit.
ItalwaysbuggedmewhentheblackswouldloveandlookuptoRichardPryor(notthebestrolemodel)andturntheirbackonBillCosby.
FIRSTRESPONDENT:
Iguessforsomereasonit'sconsidered"white"tobeeducatedandhaveagoodjob. Ithappensamonghispanicstoo.
REPLY:ThenthisHASTObesaidabouttheirattitudes: They'reshowingthemselvestobejealousofthosewhosucceedunlesstheoneswhosucceedSEEMtodosobyplayingandbeingfamous,insteadofgettinganeducationandworkinghardfortheirsuccess. Andtheirchoiceofwhichonestheyresentforsuccessandwhichonestheylaud,showstheirshallownessofmind,ignoranceastowhathardworkandeducationitactuallytakestobecomeamediastarorsportsfigure,moralpoverty(asPetersoncallsit)andlackofindividualinitiative(inlieuofanotherworddepictingtheterm"slothfulbuttocks"becauseit'snotPC).
THIRDRESPONDENT:****75%ofallthethechildrenwhoare
blackarebeingborntounwed,singlemothers. Allthatdoesis
perpetuatetheproblems. Youngwomengivingbirthtobabiesthey
can'taffordandnofatherinthepicturetotakeresponsibilityfor
theoffspring.****
Thisistheproblemthatmakesitsobad. Theydon'tknowanydifferentandthentheydon'tknowhowtogetout. What'smore,thewaytheprogramissetup,itishard,veryhardtogetout. Sincetheyarebornintoittobeginwith-theyknownodifferent. Weneedtotalsocialreformandthatwon'tcomebecausewhenyoustartthinkingandtalkingaboutsomeoneisalwaysreallyquicktocallracisim! Itisahugeproblem.
REPLY:Thereyago! Everyoneneedstoreally,reallyletgoofwhathappenedgenerationsago....evendecadesago.....andgetbusywiththebusinessoflivingafullandproductivelife....andhelpotherstodothesame,becauseunlessBOTHsidesoftheproblemletgoofthepast,thefutureisn'tgonnagetanybetter.
IgetSOsickandtiredofracism. Notonlythedumb-assedredneckTijuana-taxidrivershereintheSouthandtheirwhite-hoodednarrowmindedhootnanniesthey'realwaysparadingabout,butracialprejudicefromALLsides. ThepeoplelivingtodayareNOTresponsibleforwhatadultsweredoingdecadesorgenerationsago. Everyoneneedstogetoveritandgetonwiththeirlives.
I'vebeenwritingmyracedownas"human" underthe"other"categorywhenfillingoutformssincethe70's. Iwasalreadysicktodeathofracismbackthen. It'smylittlewayofprotesting.
IhaveTWOsetsofbi-racialg/children. Sowhat? WhenIshopinanareathat'spredominantlyanotherrace,I'mtreatedcoldlyorindifferentlybysome UNLESSmyobviouslybi-racialg/kidsarewithme. Needlesstosay,Idon'tshopthoseplacesonceI'mtreatedthisway.
Sometimespeoplejustmakemewannahurl.
THIRDRESPONDENT:****Everyoneneedstogetoveritandgetonwiththeirlives.****
Yup,Iagree. Iseeandhearitallthetime-bothways-andIamsickofit. Whitemalesdon'tgetjobsbecausetheyarewhitemalesandthereisblackmaleorwhitefemaleorHispanic.....Thatisjustaswrongaswhenablackwomandoesn'tgetajobforthecolorofherskinorthegenderofherbody! Itgoesonalloveranditwon'tstopuntilpeople-individually-pullthemselvesupandstartseekingabetterlifeforthem. Itiscalledindividualresponsibility! Period.
THIRDRESPONDENT:****I'vealsoseenthenever-endingcyclingofmanywelfarerecipients,withouttheirinabilitytoseeHOWtogetout,andquitepossibly,thereISnowayoutformanyofthemwithoutbetterhelpthanthattowhichtheyhaveaccessfornow.****
Theirmentalityneedstobechanged. Andsomewhereinthereadesirehastobetodomore,dobetter. Becausetherearepeoplewhodomakeitout. Whousedthesystemtogetontoabetterplace. Wehavebeendownandout,evenonthesystem(MomandI)whenIwasyoung. Itneverstoppedmefrombeingresponsibleanddoingwhatneededtobedonetoatleasttrytogetthere. Wehavetwochildren-IwantedmorebutIknewwecouldbarelyprovideforthetwowehave. ThereforeIdidn'thaveanymoreandIdidmydamnedesttomakesuremychildrendidn'tbecometeenagewelfareparentseither.
Thesystemishorribletogetoffbutthereshouldcomeatimewhereyouwantbetter,ifnotforyourself,thenforyourkids! ThatisthementalitythatmustbehadandIhavenoideayoucanmakeawholegroupofpovertymothers(black,white,purpleororange)togetthat!
REPLY:Thegovtcouldstartbyyankinupallthose"welfaredaddies"bytheshortonesandmake'emWORKtosupporttheirkidsandtopaybackallthewelfaremoneythey'vebeeneithertalkintheirwomenoutof,beatingtheirwomenoutoforstealingfromtheirwomen. Eitherthatorthe"daddies"coulddosomehardprisontime.
Oncethose"hounddogs"werenolongeranoppressiveburdentothe"welfaremommies,"themommiescouldbefreeNOTtoprostitutethemselves,couldbeputindetoxprogramsandcounselingwherenecessary,andgivenfreechildcarewhileobtainingeducation/skillsortrainingtoembarkoncareersthatwouldseetheirfamiliesintoamuchbetterfuture.
THIRDRESPONDENT:very,very,verytrue! Butitishardtoo,weknowboysthataren'teven21yet(andnojoboreducation)thathavethreekidsbythreedifferentgirls! Someoneneedstoputaknotitinforthem! Creatingbabiesshouldn'tbearightifyoudon'tpayforthoseyoualreadyhave!
REPLY:Inthatcase,thesimplesolutionistostartnationwideAPPRENTICEprogramstoteachthesepeopleon-the-jobskills.
Ithinkthehasshort-changedtheworkingAmericanpublicandyoungadultsespeciallybynotallowing forviableapprenticeshipprograms.Thesetypesofprogramswouldgoahellofalotfurthertowardmakingresponsibleadultsthanthemoneyandfund-hogginguniversitiesdo, whereasalotofcollegegradscan'tfindaboveminimumwagepayingjobsupongraduation asitis!
FIRSTRESPONDENT(thisjustcamein): Ithinkthereisabigdifferencebetweensomeonelikeyouhadbeentemporarilydisabledandtheotherswhoareonlifetimewelfare. OfcourseIbelievethatthereshouldbeasafetynetforthosewhomeetupwithanemergency,butwelfareshouldn'tbesomethingthatonedependsuponforalifetime.
Herein,wehavetheGAINprogram. ItstandsforGreaterAvenues(for). ItissponsoredbyLACOE. Thisdivisionisresponsibleforgoingoutintothedisadvangedcommunitiesandwithreferalsfromthewelfareoffice,findingthosewhoareonwelfarewhoneedtrainingandeducation. PartofthewelfarereformthatformerPresident Clintonsignedintolawisrequiringwomenwhosechildrenattainacertainage,toattendjobtrainingclasses.
Ithinkit'sanexcellentprogram,andI'veseenmanyasucessstoryfromwomenwhowereoncedownandout,whonowhavegoodjobs. OneladythatImetwentthroughthejobtraining,shegotanokjob,butkeptworkingatit. Sheeventuallywaspromotedandgotbetterjobs. Shewasraisinglittlechildrenatthetime. Now herkids areolder,didwellinschool andoneofthemgoestoStanford.
Therearethesucessstoriesandthesewomenaretobeapplauded. Butthentherearethosewhodon'treallywantoutoftheirsituations. Somewomen,whentheyknowthattheiryoungestchildhasreachtheagethattheywouldberequiredtoattendajobtrainingprogram,wellguesswhat? Theygoandgetpregnantagain,andthecycleofwelfarecontinues. ItalkedtoonegalwhowasinthetrainingprogramandshetoldusstoriesabouthowprobablymorethanhalfofthesewelfarerecipientswereANGRYabouthavingtoattendjobtrainingandeducation. Thegalwespoketowasvery,veryhappyaboutgettingtrainedandhavingtheopportunitytogetadecentjob.
Ibelievethatthereisalsoaslidingscalefordaycarefromthisprogramaswell. ButIbelievetheprogramisgearedforthosewhosechildrenwhoarealready5yearsoldandinkindergarten. Theopportuniesarethere. Thesewelfarerecipientsjusthavetodecidethattheywanttochangetheirlives.
I haven't had time to reply to this last one yet.
Frannie
Frannie