Should I ask to be taken out of the school?

by lola28 39 Replies latest jw friends

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  LittleToe

  When I was TMSO I felt it was my duty to encourage peopleto stay on the school, and to enrol as soon as possible.

  That having been said, there were a few who didn't feel they could do it, due to having a nervous disposition, etc. That was fine - I left them off.

  There was nothing more disruptive than someone not turning up on the night,as it affected not only the one scrabbling to prepare a talk at the last minute, but those around them (hehehe).

  In the three years or so that I was TMSO I only had four cancellations due to ill health, and only on one of these did I have to cover the material in the talk myself. Ironically this was while I was on the way out, and so I put my own slant on it
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  lola28

  Fre2beme you are right, the speaking skills that I learned from the school have helped me alot, in school and in my job.

  I really can't go to the school overseer and tell him that I want to go of the list because of the stress of giving a talk. I was normally the one they would call to give last minute talks I could put a talk together in 30 min if I had to. I also don't like the idea of cancelling at the last minute because then it places the burden of giving the talk on the sister that is the householder and I know that most of the sisters in the hall would be really upset if I did this to them, many of them are elderly and I don't want to put that kind of stress on them.

  DF, what do you suggest I do?

  lola
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  defd

  DF, what do you suggest I do?

  Be honest with your feelings to him. I think this is how the old sayings goes, but "you can never do the wrong thing the right way, but you can at times do the right thing the wrong way."
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  lola28

  By him do you mean Jehovah? Have you been honest with him yourself DFed?
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  blondie

  lola, you're right about the other sisters. But like I said, if you don't want to be in the school, and have asked to be taken off and are still scheduled, perhaps you can just let the TMSO know right away that a mistake was made.

  You don't have to give a specific reason, just say you have some "personal" reasons right now and if it changes you will let him know.

  You did mention that you don't come up on the schedule very often but are approached to do last minute talks. You might bring that up and say that you also won't be available.

  I can remember an elder who approached the TMSO and asked that his wife be put on the school. The TMSO was new to the congregation and didn't realize that this elder's wife didn't want to ever be on the school. So the unsuspecting TMSO scheduled her and she didn't show up that night, no call, and the husband acted dumb. After the third time, the TMSO just took her out of the rotation and found out the real facts, that the husband wanted her to be in the school and have never asked his wife what she wanted.

  When a JW pulls back from the so-called "privileges" of being a JW, there will always be a little suspicion but I wouldn't worry.

  Blondie
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  defd

  By him do you mean Jehovah? Have you been honest with him yourself DFed? No i mean with the brothers about being on the school, well actually about EVERYTHING. And It wouldnt hurt to do the same with Jehovah, no.
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  lola28

  Blondie there has been a big problem in my congragation with people not showing up at the meeting when they had a talk to give.The problem got so bad that we had not one but two special needs part on it with several comments every week about "letting your yes mean yes and your no mean no".

  We have two schools the front and the back, so many began to cancell and not show up at all that some weeks we only had the front school because everyone in the back school had cancelled. There was a month where I gave three last minutes talks because the other sisters cancelled or just did not show up at the last minute. So i think the TMSO would get really annoyed if I began to cancell all my talks at the last minute.

  lola
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  lola28

  So you suggest that I go to my BOE and say "Hi brothers I just wanted you to know that I am an active member at an apostate board, all the things that I have learned there have made me question whether we really have the truth, thats why I am no longer a pioneer, why I don't come to meetings or go out in service."

  Do you realize how fast they would DF me? Tell me Dfed how did this work out for you?
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  SamIam1976

  Thanks for the welcome, Littletoe.
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  codeblue

  You could always say to the elder: " Due to unexpected circumstances, I need to be taken off the school. Thank you for your understanding!"

  IF they ask you : "what unexpected circumstances?", just say: "I can't talk about it now. Thank you for your concern."

  Codeblue