I had the wife read your story, and she wants you to know that she will pray for you, and she's serious. I don't know if you or your wife still believe in God, but whether you do or not, the prayers will be there for you guys.
Read the advice of these people, and take their advice. They've been there, done that.
So sorry that your both going through this. It does take time, it took me nearly 2 years to get over the hurt and the anger. Everyone has given great advice, take one day at a time join social clubs make new friends.Start your new wonderful life as a family.