The paradox of the headship arrangement is that it is ultimately very emasculating. If a sister is married to someone who is considered "weak" or an unbeliever then she can go over his head or the loving bros step in and take the "spiritual lead" in the family. Pushing the husband onto the sidelines. I have known many sisters who have felt justified in playing the "my husband is not taking the lead card."
I am sorry this is happening to you CG.