I don't feel sorry for born-ins anymore than any other person who has had a shitty childhood (and let's face it who hasn't got atleast one butthurt story from childhood) for whatever reason. To be honest some ex-jws don't need anymore reason to feel sorry for themselves.
I think in the grand scheme of things as long there wasn't physical or sexual abuse then things could have been better and things certainly could have been worse.
The good news is once you become an adult you are responsible for yourself and your own health and happiness.