Totally strips you of any sense of self and your only purpose is to be "quiet and mild" while you "support arrangements."
I'd say the only difference with a male is he can "reach out" if he qualifies iow jumps through hoops for the BOE, but, that in itself is an illusion of power and control as men too are subject to the same rules and following direction to become good little soldiers for WT.
Sucks all round for men women and children but in different ways.