Posts by stuckinarut2

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Why Do People Become Jehovah's Witnesses?

by minimus in

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besides being raised in the religion , why do people become jws?

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stuckinarut2

A sense of group belonging, and attachment to a projected ideal set of life circumstances...where "everything will be perfect"

Add to that the automatic sense of "instant friends" and love bombing...

Ask yourselves though, when was the last time a Normal, balanced, baggage-free person with no social issues came "into the truth"? Usually it is the disenfranchised, odd members of the community that are attracted to "the ring of the truth".

A well adjusted person rarely if ever comes into the "truth"

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Why is it so hurtful to be shunned? Why object to it?

by stuckinarut2 in

it seems like many feel hurt or saddened by the practice of shunning by witnesses.. yes, when ones who we were close to, perhaps family or ones we thought were close friends choose to follow the warped directions of the society, it may seem hurtful.. but really, our reaction is up to us.

the fact is, these ones have shown that in reality, their love for us was never real or genuine.

no, those relationships were superficial and lacking in substance.

stuckinarut2

I just don't understand those that desperately WANT to go back into an abusive situation.

If a wife is beaten up by her husband, yet still craves his attention, we call that a tragic case.

If one is emotionally beaten up by being ignored, neglected or punished by witnesses, is it not better to move on from that circle of association?

Even the society has that cartoon video for teenagers on its website that says that "being ignored is a form of bullying"...

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Why is it so hurtful to be shunned? Why object to it?

by stuckinarut2 in

it seems like many feel hurt or saddened by the practice of shunning by witnesses.. yes, when ones who we were close to, perhaps family or ones we thought were close friends choose to follow the warped directions of the society, it may seem hurtful.. but really, our reaction is up to us.

the fact is, these ones have shown that in reality, their love for us was never real or genuine.

no, those relationships were superficial and lacking in substance.

stuckinarut2

Great comments! Thanks to all .

Yes, we have the choice as to how much power the society (or the manipulated members of it) have over us.

As has been said by other posters over the years: "the best revenge is to live a happy and successful life"

The only power people have over us, is that which we allow. Don't play by their rules.

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Does it not dawn on the cart witnesses?

by jambon1 in

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i sat in town recently, right in the window of a nice wee pub.

within minutes i realised that i had a perfect view of a jw cart and the two ridiculously dressed jw's (they have absolutely no individuality at all.

what's more, they all look like they're going to a funeral).

stuckinarut2

Sour Grapes: What is completely absurd, crazy and stupid is the Witlesses think they have a life giving message that must be given because the end is so sooooooon. If a Witness saw smoke coming out of his neighbors house would he stand outside his house sipping on a latte with a sign that says, "Neighbor, your house is on fire."

Well said indeed!!!!

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Ever notice this contradiction?

by stuckinarut2 in

so witnesses love using the scripture that says that "narrow and cramped is the road to life, and few are the ones finding it" as proof that they have the truth.

yes, a small number.. yet they also love boasting about the "increases in numbers coming into the truth" as proof of jehovah's blessing of the society!.

so, which is it?

stuckinarut2

Great comments!

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Cold war on homefront!

by LifesNotOver in

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a few months back i let it be known to my husband that i was no longer interested in anything jw related.

when he took it to the elders, without actually divulging anything that might get me disfellowshipped like apostasy - well, he just basically told them i was all depressed and discouraged and everything and that i didn't want to be contacted by the elders about it.

i don't know what he actually told them, word for word, or what they actually said to him word for word, but he told me they told him not to do anything spiritual with me at home anymore - no bible study, praying, daily text, meetings via phone, jw broadcasting, discussions, etc.

stuckinarut2

Oh dear!

Im sorry to hear you are going through that.

It seems very odd that IF he told the elders you "were depressed" that they would tell him NOT to pray and study etc.

The VERY thing they say to do for a "depressed" one or one feeling "doubts" etc is to ramp up the spiritual activities!.

It sounds like he is one who perhaps has not been 100% honest with you about things he feels or discussed with elders.

Tread carefully!

Maintain your own self respect and dignity! This is something you can only have control over. Despite all that is going on around you, YOU alone have the power to control your dignity.

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Visit From Jehovah's Witnesses

by Vanderhoven7 in

had two lovely jws (stephen and ruth) visit this morning.

this was our second study in the last 2 weeks.

they first knocked on my door (bell is out) 3 weeks ago and i shared my testimony and we arranged to meet last tuesday which we did.. our first study went like this:.

stuckinarut2

Great work!

The way you are highlighting the illogical and misleading teachings of the witnesses, using THEIR OWN bible and publications is masterful.

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Why is it so hurtful to be shunned? Why object to it?

by stuckinarut2 in

it seems like many feel hurt or saddened by the practice of shunning by witnesses.. yes, when ones who we were close to, perhaps family or ones we thought were close friends choose to follow the warped directions of the society, it may seem hurtful.. but really, our reaction is up to us.

the fact is, these ones have shown that in reality, their love for us was never real or genuine.

no, those relationships were superficial and lacking in substance.

stuckinarut2

It seems like many feel hurt or saddened by the practice of shunning by witnesses.

Yes, when ones who we were close to, perhaps family or ones we thought were close friends choose to follow the warped directions of the society, it may seem hurtful.

But really, our reaction is up to us.

The fact is, these ones have shown that in reality, their love for us was never REAL or GENUINE. No, those relationships were superficial and lacking in substance.

Why would we choose to try and go back to an abusive situation like that? Why feel the need to go back to a conditional relationship where one can be bullied?

Really, it is very immature and child-like to ignore a person, or refuse to speak with them because they have chosen to research facts, or have gone down a different path. School yard antics indeed.

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Ever notice this contradiction?

by stuckinarut2 in

so witnesses love using the scripture that says that "narrow and cramped is the road to life, and few are the ones finding it" as proof that they have the truth.

yes, a small number.. yet they also love boasting about the "increases in numbers coming into the truth" as proof of jehovah's blessing of the society!.

so, which is it?

stuckinarut2

So witnesses love using the scripture that says that "narrow and cramped is the road to life, and few are the ones finding it" as proof that they have the truth. Yes, a small number.

Yet they also love boasting about the "increases in numbers coming into the truth" as proof of Jehovah's blessing of the society!

So, which is it?

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Any word on the annual meeting?

by careful in

have all the leaks at ny bethel been discovered, or are there still some who are revealing the inner secrets beforehand?

i haven't seen anything here about the annual meeting just a month away now.

anyone have any real info on it?.

stuckinarut2

The date of the big A!