If it was just an ordinary (NON APPOINTED) person, they would be counselled by Elders for "not counting the cost, or being foolish with their decisions"!
BUT somehow because he must be a well liked APPOINTED man, they take up a collection??
I got counselled severely many years back when I arranged a secret collection for a young teenager's family. He was diagnosed with a serious form of cancer, and required expensive treatments that they struggled to afford.
I anonymously took a card and envelope around to all, and offered the opportunity to donate. It was not an official congregation initiative (because we KNOW that NO money ever goes OUT from the cong to the actual members)
I was told it was "not appropriate. and was presumptuous" to do this, and that "the family is not an exemplary family"!
Fast-forward now 7 years, he is doing well, his dad is an Elder. They don't speak with me, and I'm out of the cult.