Posts by codeblue

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Let's welcome Unhappywife

by codeblue in

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thanks for posting, i know it took a lot of courage and pain to do so....i truly hope you become "happy" soon.. take care,.

codeblue

btw, I just looked at your profile: Happy Birthday

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Let's welcome Unhappywife

by codeblue in

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friends

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thanks for posting, i know it took a lot of courage and pain to do so....i truly hope you become "happy" soon.. take care,.

codeblue

Welcome

Thanks for posting, I know it took a lot of courage and pain to do so....I truly hope you become "happy" soon.

Take care,

Codeblue

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today, i am a man

by doogie in

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i bought my first grill last night.

and i cooked out, wisconsin style (beer and brats, baby).

my texan girlfriend had never seen such a display of raw manhood.

codeblue

Congrats on learning how to cook for your girlfriend Real Men can cook!!!

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this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.

codeblue

Sheila: He sounds like such a "sweetie"...

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A womans tears

by Maverick in

this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.

codeblue

Maverick: I am sooo glad you posted this topic.

First of all......I am not someone to cry.............it will be the "last thing I do"....Thanks to my uncaring father who treated us girls like we were in "boot camp" and never once complimented us on anything!!! When we got unrightly punished we would "try to cry"...He would say: "Stop it or I will give you something to cry about"...

Thus, I could never cry. Instead, I got MAD.

I think getting mad is a worse way of expressing feelings. There is a reason we cry: to get rid of toxins in our bodies or negative feelings. Granted there are some women that use it as a "tool".....and that is wrong.....

In my relationship with my husband, I get mad....he RARELY sees me cry...I cry only when I am so upset and feel he doesn't "hear me".

Then he says: I would rather you cry, I can deal with the tears.

We have only been married 4 years....so I have had to tell him why I can't cry right away......I have to hold all my pain and fear inside of me because of my FATHER. Now I know I am not living with my father, but for 21 years I had to live that way. Then the next 20 years I had a cheating husband who again abused my emotional state.

When I do cry.........and that is still rare because of my FATHER........I just want to be held and told I am loved....and things will be "ok"...

Codeblue

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TO ALL NEWBIES,,,,,

by kls in

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please except our welcome to you all.

sometimes we may miss your intro posting but know that you are all welcome.

just jump right in and answer a post or start a new one.

codeblue

Welcome n2deep (and other new posters!!!)

I fully understand your "fear" of posting....I have been fading for a year now, me and hubby. I live in "fear" if my family finds out they will "shun" me....

Hope all is well with you and please know there are a lot of kind people here that "feel" much like you do.

hugs,

Codeblue

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