Posts by SM62

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THE SHAME IS ON "YOU" DANSK!!!

by Aikon in

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hi dansk.

i have read your commet on the subject "shame on you".. what you have seem to forgot is your family????

yes if you was not like a "bull in a china shop" you would have stopped and looked at the situation to ensure your daughter were not left behind in the w/t.. but what did you do?

SM62

If I held a gun to my head and told my husband I would kill myself unless he left the WTS with me, he would let me blow my brains out. And all the while, he would reason that he did it because he loves me and knows he has the truth. By allowing me to die, he would actually be giving me everlasting life He has actually hinted as much. He would rather I was dead than be an 'apostate'.

What I am trying to say is, no matter what we do or say, if you force someone to leave, or choose your love and friendship over the WTS, they may well leave the organisation out of loyalty to you, but they would not truly be 'out'. Everyone has to make their own decision. This took me some time to realise, but you can't live a lie for years on the off-chance that your family members will finally listen to you. In fact, I feel I have more chance getting my family out if I leave than if I stay. Not that my husband would leave the WTS for my sake as I would have done for him - but each to their own.

Terri

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

You guys are marvellous and for the first time in 2 days I have smiled.

All I know is that I have pretended things were ok when it was obvious that they weren't

Mouthy - you will never know how much your simple prayer meant to me - you truly are an inspiration.

Love you all

xx

T

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

Thanks,

From one Terri to another - I appreciate your love, girl.

xxxTerriXXX

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

By the way

Everyone that has replied to this thread is a pure diamond and I love you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

T

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

The situation is quite complicated - we have been married decades and have children and grandchildren. Some family members are JWs, most aren't. I just hate feeling so bad every week knowing I have gone out of my way to make the place comfy for them even though they wouldn't give me the time of day. Plus, my husband can be so weird and is such a complete control freak (he was like this before we became JWS) and he thinks I should do what he says, whether I am a JW or not. I feel so worthless and depressed at the moment and I just go through the motions. I have good days and bad days. I have never been happy with him, in all the past 25 years, I just got swept along at a very young age (married at 17).

What do I do now?

Terri

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

Thanks all - esp. LT - I will contact CAB cos I can't go on like this any more.

xx

Terri

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

I am not DFd or DAd - just shunned. I have had malicious gossip spread about me just because I don't go to the meetings any more. I don't spread my own teachings, I keep myself to myself - the elders are angry because an elder's wife told me 'If it wasn't for you, your husband would be an elder and even more by now' They feel I am in the way and want to match him up with a local pioneer sister who I know he quite likes. I just feel like sh......t

T

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UK rules on divorcng a man who ignores me....

by SM62 in

my husband expects me to have the group study here in our house.

we have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups.

i clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes.

SM62

My husband expects me to have the group study here in our house. which I do. We have always had the group study, plus 3 field service groups. I clean the room, buy the tea/coffee/biscuits/cakes. I make sure there is enough toilet role in the loo. I buy the sugar. I tidy the room, hoover it, put out the chairs - mainly because I don't want the JWs to call me a slob.

He goes out for hours on end. He never tells me where he is going. He basically treats me quite badly, does not support me financially, BUT he is in good standing in the cong and I am shunned (YES - even those who come to my house for the book study still shun me)

Do I have grounds for divorce?

Terri

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"If anyone calls himself a BROTHER ,"...................

by gumby in

5:9-11, says that anyone who .....calls himself a brother and is a fornicator, idolater, drunkard and such, is not to be greeted or have a meal shared with them.

the witnesses of course, apply this to anyone who calls themselves a witness, and is any of those things, yet still calls themselves a witness.. the problem i always had understanding is......if a person does not call himself a "brother" ( a witness) any longer, then how do they justify applying it to those who choose not to be recognised as such any longer?

in the niv footnote section which gives a short commentary on scriptures.....it plainly says this applies to any who call themselves christians, and do these things.

SM62

This post is very interesting.

It took me so long for the penny to drop. I used to think I could get through to my husband by using common sense - how silly of me. He is so completely and utterly brainwashed by this organisation that I just can't get through to him - although I won't stop trying.

Shunning is wrong for a Christian simply because it is an unchristian act. For any Christian to say otherwise defies logic. If Jesus was on the earth today, he would not shun people. I thought Christians were supposed to be following Jesus as their leader and not a bunch of self-appointed hypocrites.

I also think that if I were to shun others, I would be implying that I am better than they are and to speak to them would defile me in some way. How disgusting and shameful it would be if I were to think this way. I would never shun anyone, and I don't care if that means I will eventually be DFd. I know the elders in my congregation are itching to boot me out so it is only a matter of time. I refuse to go along with their cruel policies because the people who form these policies don't have two brain cells to rub together - I don't want to be part of their gang any more.

Terri

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Please Say Something Nice to NIKITA!

by Funchback in

i received this e-mail from my sister (known here as 'nikita') on february 12th:

hi guys, just to fyi we had a fire that started in our dryer on tuesday night-fortunately, i was home (with ann's baby) and caught it at the early stages and was able to call the fire dept (another fortunate thing was our firemen just happened to be having a meeting and responded before the whistle sounded from the 911 center.

) but, even so, by the time they got here it was only minutes away from blowing as at the top of our basement stairs the temp.

SM62

Nikita,

Sorry - only just saw this thread.

Hang in there girl - things can only get better!

Thinking of you and yours. xxx

Terri