Phaedra

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  So, Christimas....

  by Phaedra in

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  love the music.color, season's greetings, etc.

  even have a desktop tree.. neighbors on the block are all lit up (since thanksgiving = awesome!).

  the colors are gorgeous!.

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  Love the music.color, season's greetings, etc. Even have a desktop tree.

  Neighbors on the block are all lit up (since Thanksgiving = awesome!). The colors are gorgeous!
  

  Our house is quiet (1JW dub believer + 1 former JW agnostic = compromise).
  

  At my temp job they pinned a tiny stocking full of candy to the outside of my cubical. They will never know what that REALLY means to me, 25 years of my childhood and early adulthood sacrificed to an organization that demonized everything worthwhile as off-limits and gave nothing in return.
  

  I love this time of the year. And the time off. And hate it because I can never relate on the level of a normal person. December 25 is the loneliest day of the year for me.
  

  Anyway, Happy Christmas, fellow j-w.com's. I'll never know what it's really like to be a kid at Christmas, but I can imagine it's pretty cool and wonderful, based on all the times I played with my best friend's toys during our school's xmas vacation.

  If you're inclined, can you PM me so I can Season's greet you with a personal Merry Christmas? My creativity yearns to express itself. I just need some kindred spirits to do so.

  Phae
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  Basic Principles for Forum Moderation

  by Simon in

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  a perennial issue for any online forum is moderation and applying rules.

  we have a set of community guidelines and posting guidelines that are intended to make clear what is and isn't acceptable but this tends to focus on the obvious standards of behavior for, well, obvious reasons.

  it's easy to talk about people being aggressive or insulting etc... as those are common and clearly unwanted behaviors and the typical issue for online communities - the most likely things to come up.. does this mean that everything *not* on the list is allowed?

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  Phaedra

  Simon,

  I've been here since the start. That you keep this site going as labor of love is generous.
  phae, class of '99.
  
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  Adult Coloring Books

  by littlerockguy in

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  anybody take up coloring?

  i got lost ocean by johanna basford and i got another coloring book mandalas and more.

  i just use crayola colored pencils and some gel pens and thin tipped markers.

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  Yep, creativity is my thing. I am drawn to big open coloring spaces. The small detailed illustrations don't draw me in as much. Also highly recommended: Mandalas, Zentangles, and JoyRox (coloring on rocks).

  I've made some of my own pages with my own art. I even have a few "kids" books that I work in. It's all the same. I don't care :).
  
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  How did you feel when you found out "the truth about the truth"?

  by stuckinarut2 in

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  so when you first found out specific facts about the organisation, how did you feel??.

  the un membership.

  the way 1914 was calculated from pyramid measurements.

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  As a raised-in who stumbled across ttatt in my mid-20s, I was in shock, trying to reconcile all I ever knew with a new reality (that was way east of Eden).
  
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  Ray's Books. And Copyrights!

  by DwainBowman in

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  the copyright owner has posted a message on the internet, and can be found below!.

  ray franz.

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  Phaedra

  Thumb's up on JeffT's post about the business of being a writer and Ms Dykstra's efforts at preserving the integrity for the author's work and wishes.
  

  On my journey out, I did what a lot of people did when they came across Ray's books online, but for whatever reason couldn't order them from his Web site. I requested both from the public library on an interlibrary loan.

  A couple years later, I bought my own set directly from Ray and included a letter about how his work impacted me. He responded with a kind, personal note. Now that he's gone, I feel so lucky to have experienced his presence in that unique way.
  

  A few years after that, when I felt I no longer needed them, I donated the books to my local public library, with the intent that whomever needed them would find and enjoy them. Kind of like paying it forward.
  
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  Another mass shooting, three or four hours ago.

  by James Mixon in

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  san bernardino california.

  up to 12 people have been killed.. the center a private non-profit agency that assists people with developmental.

  disabilities.

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  Phaedra

  what do you say when things like this happen?
  
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  Job Hunting Advice

  by Phaedra in

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  what might you recommend to someone looking for a job?

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  Phaedra

  I offer no advice in this arena. You never know where it could lead!

  Well, that's certainly true.

  But I think keeping a good sense of humor about me can take me far! :)

  I'll act as if ... some employer out there needs me. Let the treasure hunt begin! (says she after the third cup of coffee).
  
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  I think I was off the day they taught ...

  by Simon in

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  2. humour

  does anyone else have those things that everyone else seems to know ... except you?

  it's like you were off the day it was taught in school and you don't know that you don't know about it.

  but everyone else does.. i have a couple .... first, days of the month.

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  Phaedra

  P.S. My older sister taught me how to tie my shoes in the Kingdom Hall bathroom during a Thursday night meeting. Besides being one of the only worthwhile skills I learned during my 25 year tenure as a JW, I had the best sister ever!
  
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  I think I was off the day they taught ...

  by Simon in

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  2. humour

  does anyone else have those things that everyone else seems to know ... except you?

  it's like you were off the day it was taught in school and you don't know that you don't know about it.

  but everyone else does.. i have a couple .... first, days of the month.

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  I worked as a teacher's assistant in a classroom of 25 first graders a couple of years ago. Most of the 5-6 year-olds didn't know how to tie their shoe laces. I think that skill set should definitely be taught in first grade during the first week. And make up lessons for kids who 'are off that day'!
  

  You don't know how many shoelaces Ms Phaedra had to bend down on one knee and tie on gym class day! :) For the chronic untied students I simply took away their shoes. Just kidding! But I did prescribe weekend homework of learning Shoelace 101 from an older sibling and would follow up with them on Monday.

  And here I thought velcro fasteners were the thing. Nope, laces are in, baby!
  
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  Job Hunting Advice

  by Phaedra in

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  what might you recommend to someone looking for a job?

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  Phaedra

  Beth Sarim, I suppose "because I really need a job" is never a good answer. ;)

  Thanks for the reminders.