Posts by MissFit

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Thank you all for your responses.

I have really appreciated the JWN community on this site.

There were things I didn't even know that I didn't know. For example logical fallacies... the links really helped. I would never have looked them up because I didnt know they existed.

I am in an uniquely fortunate situation regarding fading.

I am married to a non-JW, my children never embraced the"truth", my JW mom lives clear across the country from me, I have been physically in and out of the org. for over 20 years.

The difference for me is now I am mentally out.

I don't have very many social ties.

It has almost been a year since I went to a meeting. I did not go to the conventions or memorial.

I am keeping an open mind regarding god or a creator.

Data dog: I hear you. That is one of the hardest concept to get used to...death being final.

I think acknowledging that can also make life more meaningful.

No do overs. This is the only life we have.

I am finding that I am getting to be more comfortable in my own skin also.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Hi. Witness my Fury...5 years ...how long did it take you to start accepting?

I'm still reevaluating everything I thought I knew.

Some things I haven't even touched yet. Baby steps.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

🙆 Hi everyone.

I just realized that it has been over a year since I discovered this site and started to recognize I was shackled by invisible chains.

I am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.

I posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules. The moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.

It is very interesting to look back and be able to trace my personal journey of discovery.

I have been able to learn alot about myself and also understand myself a little better.

It was very reassuring to learn that there were others that had similar experiences.

Some things I discovered:

🙈It wasn't me, it was them:

I was trying, but nothing was ever good enough and it will never be as long as I stay as a JW.

🙉 My self worth is not dependent on this religion, "the friends", or the elders.

🙊 I am not a dead person walking. I am not a condemned person just waiting for God'S Judgement. I do not deserve death, my family does not deserve death.

🙈 I do not have to look over my shoulder in fear. I do not have to dwell in the past full of guilt.

🙉 I have started to think for myself and question things instead of assuming I know the answers.

🐵 Have you noticed a difference in yourself since you have been on this site?

For better or for worse?

How have you changed?

💖👍 Thank you everyone for making a difference in my life.

Miss.Fit😙

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Sticky situations

by Sammy Jenkis in

i was remembering today this situation that i let get out of hand because i was too damaged to let my co-workers and my boss know i was a jw when i was still inside.

it was hard to explain to people something so foreign and out of this world as being a witness and never before had the difficulty been as hard as when one of our co-workers birthdays came around.. i dreaded the moment because i'd played pretty cool and dodged any questions that might reveal my religious inclinations.. but:.

my boss came over to my desk and gave me this card to sign, she asked if i'd like to sign it.

MissFit

💖Bttt in honor of my 1+year anniversary on JWN . 😊

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Is it a right or is it right?

by likeabird in

in light of the recent posts about the little boy taken out of hospital in southampton by his parents and is now somewhere between france and spain, i started reading up some of the newspaper article links posted.

i was especially interested by the comments posted.. note my surprise, and yes horror, to see a large number of people supporting the parents decision.

how the parents are fully in their rights to do such a thing, going as far as to imply they 'own' their child, so they can do what they want.. i know this is a very sensitive subject and i'm probably opening a can of worms, but i think it needs saying.

MissFit

Like a bird. I think you misunderstood me. I was not referring to the experts on the internet. When I said experts I really meant actual Doctors in the field that had dealt everyday with children with my son' s problem. They were in an actual hospital and really went to school and everything.

I did research on the internet to find out about the illness so I could ask intelligent questions. When I met with the " experts" or specialists in the field, I was able to understand better what my options were. My son' s doctor was a pediatrician and did not have experience working with blood disorders.

But you are right , the doctors are not the ones that have to live with the day to day and long term consequences .

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Is it a right or is it right?

by likeabird in

in light of the recent posts about the little boy taken out of hospital in southampton by his parents and is now somewhere between france and spain, i started reading up some of the newspaper article links posted.

i was especially interested by the comments posted.. note my surprise, and yes horror, to see a large number of people supporting the parents decision.

how the parents are fully in their rights to do such a thing, going as far as to imply they 'own' their child, so they can do what they want.. i know this is a very sensitive subject and i'm probably opening a can of worms, but i think it needs saying.

MissFit

Likeabird: I think you raised an important issue.

I do agree that children should not be treated like property and be at the sole whim of their parents.

I feel most parents want the best possible care and outcome for their children.

I agree with Bluesbrother: medical advise and expertise varies. Even experts can disagree about treatments. I think medical personnel should be willing to work with the parents and help them understand their options.

I had an experience with having to butt heads with my child's doctor and being a strong advocate for my son. I had to do my own research. I too went on the internet so I could get more information.

I searched for experts and was able to make an appointment. I had to drive over 3 hours from home for the consultation. Even after I got the information and the experts sent their recommendations to my son' s doctor, I still had to fight with her.

The issue was how low my sons platelet count needed to be before he was hospitalised. His doctor had an arbitrary number without taking anything else into account. The experts gave me a range and other factors to take into consideration.

The point was my son's doctor felt he was at risk even though Doctors with more experience disagreed.

I had an ER doctor who thought I was risking my son' s life because I didnt immediately put my son in the hospital when his platelets went down. He looked at the numbers and not at the whole picture. I had backing from doctors who had experience in this field.

So I am saying that sometimes a parent is forced to be an "expert" and be assertive because some doctors already have their mind made up.

In my case I was not opposed to getting my son treatment. I disagreed with the implementation and degree of the treatment. In my son's doctor's mind my son was at risk.

We changed doctors. I could not take fighting with her every times.

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My JW friend turned down the "privilege" of working the literature table at the park. Why?

by MissFit in

i have written before about my jw friend that plays hookie with me on sundays.

we skip the meeting and go straight to lunch and margaritas.

she converted later in life and has been a jw for over 25 years.. she is in her late 70's and has had heart problems.

MissFit

Legacy: what you wrote summarized how my lady lives her life. I like your take alot better than Perry's and the WT's judgmental views.

My friend see the merit in individual , she doesn't write them off because they are not JWs.

I think a lot of JWs are like her. They do the best with what they are taught. They try to live by the principals of love and try to reconcile the God of love they want to worship with the God of judgment they have been taught about.

That's why they get sick and depressed.

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My JW friend turned down the "privilege" of working the literature table at the park. Why?

by MissFit in

i have written before about my jw friend that plays hookie with me on sundays.

we skip the meeting and go straight to lunch and margaritas.

she converted later in life and has been a jw for over 25 years.. she is in her late 70's and has had heart problems.

MissFit

The thing that upset my friend the most was the inefficient and impersonal nature of the work. She is very friendly and out going. It would be unnatural for her to operate the table the way she was being instructed.

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My JW friend turned down the "privilege" of working the literature table at the park. Why?

by MissFit in

i have written before about my jw friend that plays hookie with me on sundays.

we skip the meeting and go straight to lunch and margaritas.

she converted later in life and has been a jw for over 25 years.. she is in her late 70's and has had heart problems.

MissFit

Legacy :My friend wasn't born in. She had life experience. I think that's why she gets so irritated. Some things seem like it should be common sense.

Even simple common courtesy seems to be missing.

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My JW friend turned down the "privilege" of working the literature table at the park. Why?

by MissFit in

i have written before about my jw friend that plays hookie with me on sundays.

we skip the meeting and go straight to lunch and margaritas.

she converted later in life and has been a jw for over 25 years.. she is in her late 70's and has had heart problems.

MissFit

Bucketshopbill: I agree with your reasons. When I went I would come home feeling so inadequate. One time at the meeting I ended up in the bathroom in tears. I remember a sister approaching me and looking at me sympatheticly .

She pats my hand and asks: "did the meeting backfire on you? It happens to me sometimes"

I have never forgotten that phrase. I experienced many more instances but a least I knew what to call them.

My friend would start getting chest pains. She told me being around a lot of people and having to deal with their questions stressed her out.

She was discouraged by the lack of love.