Posts by MissFit

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How old were you when baptized?

by Coded Logic in

i was baptized at the age of 11. like most of us, my commitment wasnt to honor god but rather i was gang pressed into the service of the wtbts.

and, at such a young age, it was impossible for me to appreciate the enormity of my actions.

honestly, how could i possibly have known any better?

MissFit

I am so glad I never encouraged my kids to get baptized.

I would have walked away when I was 18 if I hadnt been baptized. I spent over 30 years trying to live up to a commitment I didn't even understand.

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Reverse Shunning

by exwhyzee in

someting happened yesterday that i thought might be noteworty enough to relate to you here.. mrs. eyz and i were invited to my new boss's home for his annual end of summer party.

it's a pretty big deal....his is a name known locally (i'll call him j.r.) a really nice interesting guy who's held a number of high level and politically connected jobs.

there was to be music, dancing, wine and reprotedly lots of well dressed, well educated, well to do and influential people (oh yes...and us) in attendance.. anyway we thought we'd make an occasion out of it and got ourselves spiffed up which involved new outfits and extra mirror time before we left home.

MissFit

Maybe that is what more of us should do when faced with begrudgingly token acknowledgments. They thought they were doing you a favor by greeting you.

I liked the way you let them know they were not acceptable association for you.

You got to be the one who decided. Great example.

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

Pete: I didn't realize they would be thinking their last thought when they were resurrected. I always thought they would wake up like they were sleeping.

That is what comforted me. I guess every religion has their own fantasy to help them grieve.

Steve: you are not the only one.

My nephew's death was harder on me than the previous losses because I had learned TTATT and knew that death was final. It was harder to find and give comfort.

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

I was wondering what other phrases you have heard that was supposed to be comforting but if looked at closely was offensive or made you feel worse?

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I put the kingdom first! Now look what happened...

by Julia Orwell in

i put the kingdom first - by sheree stokell.

so they dunked me in a pool.

armageddon would be here soon.

MissFit

Julia: the hypocrisy and the futility came across loud and clear. I think it touched a cord in a lot of people. Thanks for expressing it so well.

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Trying to Salvage a Friendship

by Quendi in

my friends,.

i need your counsel on a personal matter, and i hope you will give it in love.

as some of you know, i was disfellowshipped six years ago, but it wasn't until june 2010 that i made up my mind never to return to the wts.

MissFit

Maybe he is too embarrassed and does not think he is worthy of your friendship. He is not used to unconditional love.

Sometimes you have to just move on, but I suspect if he reaches out that you would be there for him.

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The power of thought

by Doug Mason in

i find it so interesting to see the intensity that results from intangible thoughts.

no one living today has any personal direct experience with the people who wrote and rewrote the jews' and christians' scriptures.

all that people have is in their imagination, yet they will demand that others have the identical mental model.. people are prepared to fight and argue over ideas, to the point of torture and murder.

MissFit

What each does is their own responsibility and right.

Doug if everyone followed that and believed it what a changed world we would live in.

Imagine just letting people be true to themselves instead of trying to conform to others preconceptions.

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

Stuck: yes it's like when others say: at least they dont have to suffer through the time of the end.

I heard brothers tell her not to give up and how sad her son would be if she didnt make it.

I think (edit to: I know) deep down she would rather have him alive and in the world for a long time instead of dead now .

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

Data dog: you are right... they are both implying that it was god's will or for a higher purpose.

Oubliette: I just bite my tongue when she mentions the resurrection. I know that is the only thing getting her through.

They use his death to push her to do more so she can be there to greet him.

She feels guilty because she isn't going to meetings.

I listen to her talk about her memories of him. And my heart breaks.

Then in an next breath she tells me what her relative said. At least the world didnt get him.

Back story: he had stopped going to meetings. He was having trouble keeping a job because he had a drinking problem. He had a bad work accident when he was 19 and almost died.

My sister tried to get him to see a doctor and to get into counseling.

He had an enlarged heart and died of a heart attack.

I would never take away her hope.

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

How about when someone says when talking about a nonJW relative:

Well now we'll see him in the new system ( being grateful he died before the end)

I could not believe that he thought her son was better off dead than in the " world".

Dont people stop to think about what they are really saying?