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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

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we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

((((((Niveau))))) Lots of hugs. You are not alone. As you explore this site you will find many people struggling with the same issues you are.

Someone mentioned that many experience the stages of grief after they leave the org.

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It's my 25th yr anniversary of freedom

by rebel8 in

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approximately 25 yrs ago today, i left the borg forever.. .

thank you jwn/jwd for helping me heal by listening to me.

there are not many greater gifts than freedom..

MissFit

Rebel, just found this thread. Congratulations. I also wanted you to know how much your posts have helped me remove some of my chains.

Thank you.

Miss.Fit

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Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

by MissFit in

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i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

is she pioneering and need extra time?.

MissFit

Well its been a week since the CA. She was supposed to call so we could by have lunch together. Good thing i wasn't holding my breath.

I might call and invite her, but I really dont feel like it.It takes too much energy controlling the eye rolls and tongue biting .(mine, not hers lol)

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

So sailaway: that is a perfect example of how people wake up differently. You woke up emotionally first then started on the mental while your husband was physically out, ended up being triggered mentally.

Shopaholic: I'm glad you worked through it to become emotionally free. It is a process. You are right each person has to find their own way.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Simon: well put. I noticed that surreal feeling at the circuit assembly I went to. I realized the talks had little substance to them.

I saw the review questions on the back of the program. At the end of each part the brother would ask the question and then answer it, giving us time to write it down.

The kicker? I was sitting there with the rest of them furiously writing down their wisdom?

I read it back and thought whaaat😩? They took 10-15 minutes to say that?

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Vanderhoven: i agree. It seems like the important part is finding TTATT.

The trigger for looking can be either mental or emotional.

I needed more information to become mentally out.

Once processed things intellectually and logically, I was able to work on the emotional road blocks. The knee jerk responses programmed into me via countless B &M sessions (Beatings & meetings)

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Life is short and I'm gonna love it thread!

by poopsiecakes in

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so what are you doing to enjoy yourself?

doesn't have to be for anyone around you, or have anything to do with jw world.

just something that you do for you and only you and that fills your soul (whatever that means).

MissFit

I like to crochet, make my own windchimes.

and read.

Poopsie, I might start adding picturing people in their underwear to my list.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Vidiot: lol... that discribed me in my active active days.

come to think about it... that discribe my mom.

My mom told me once that she felt bad that my sisters( who won't have anything to do with the JWs) might not make it thru Armageddon since its so close.

But then she tells me that even though she would like to be with them in paradise, if they dont make it, she knows there will be plenty of other children that will need a mom. She can adopt them and have a chance to be a perfect mom.

I was speechless.

I have a hard time talking to my mom. She doesnt know I am fading , she lives in another state. (Besides the obvious state of denial.)

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Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

is she pioneering and need extra time?.

MissFit

Jaid: I can relate. I just wanted to keep the door opened. But i don't feel under any obligation to anti witness.

I am glad you had a chance to catch up with old friends and family.

I went home feeling lighter because I knew I was not under any obligation to apply anything I heard.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Phizzy: good point. I think that is why there is such a strong push recently to appeal to emotions. The video about the resurrection comes to mind.

And when you are born in- those emotional chains become an accessory. You wear it with pride. You think you are proving Satan a liar and indicating God by sitting out in the hall during a birthday party.

You get patted on the head for reading a couple of highlighted sentences during the study.

I remember the only positive attention I got was when I commented at the meetings or placed magazines.

I remember as an "Elder's" daughter , the extra pressure we had to be a good example because it reflects on him. ( my dad , not Jehovah)

As an adult, I struggled with the guilt of not serving Jehovah whole souled. Of marrying " out of the truth". So even though I was physically out it was because I did not feel worthy enough. I gave up. Then I would try again until my sense of inadequacy would kick in. I felt like I was betraying Jehovah.

I was shocked here when I found out all the things I didn't know I didnt know. Once I understood that the things I thought were true, weren't, I was able to start shedding son e of those emotional shackles.