Posts by MissFit

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UK Guardian article on JW child abuse

by scotsman in

published today.

jehovah's witnesses accused of silencing victims of child abuse.

What is this "religion"?

by Kom 197 in

jw
friends

for a long time, i was convinced jehovah witnesses were just people preaching the word of god in a different way than other christians.

i was shown the real truth over the past few months.

i've been friends with this guy for over 5 years.

These stories break my heart. As soon as you said JW , I knew the ending of the story. You were his trial sent by Satan and your JW was victorious. How could you compete with everlasting life on paradise? It was better for him to say goodbye now than to watch you die at Armageddon.

I'm sorry.

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drunken thread about my niece's JW wedding , my non jw sister and gay nephew impressions,

by Miss.Fit in

MissFit

Here is a trip down memory lane. I ran across this and couldn't resist resurrecting it. I needed a laugh.

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If you don't believe in God where do you get the strength to cope?

by Miss.Fit in

jw
friends

i know there are some here that are going through some tough times.

some of you do not believe in god.

some are not sure.. i was told recently by a friend to pray to god for help and he would comfort me.. my first impulse is to pray.

MissFit

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Oh Lord. Have Mercy. "His Fightin' Name was..."

by TerryWalstrom in

jw
friends

a huge man to my right leans in close.i catch the scent of stale menthol cigarette smoke.he’s he speaking to....(i look around)...to me?

i snap to attention, listening.“my fightin’ name was spyder.”strangers talk to me.

it’s a thing.

MissFit

Thanks Terry,

Your writing always draws me in. I love reading your "snapshots".

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Non JW wife/JW husband Christmas tree debate

by spacegirl443 in

jw
friends

first post here and looking for advice and help.

sorry in advance for it being so long :(.

i'm a happily married woman (no kids) who is a non-jw, presbyterian to be precise.

MissFit

Hi Spacegirl:

So what are your Christmas plans?

What a beautiful tree. I hope you had fun decorating it. Are you going to decorate the whole room too? Is there a window you can put the tree by so you can see it from the outside? I never celebrated christmas as a child but i loved looking at the lit trees displayed in the windows.

Wouldnt it be cool if you could put wheels on your tree? You could wheel it out when he is gone and enjoy it and then wheel it back to the other room when he is home. Win win. Or since this is the 21st century, you could put a camera in the room and look at your tree on it whenever you want.

I really do understand your husbands reluctance to have a tree in full view. He would be feeling like he was participating just by it looking at it. Apperances are very important to a JW. He does not want anyone to even think he is condoning or participating in any way. It was very loving of you to agree to his sacrifice um compromise.

When i was still mentally in and married to a non JW, one of my compromises was to "let" my mother in law send presents to my children as long as she didn't gift wrap them or say Merry Christmas.

And i would wait until after Christmas to give it to them.

It is all about being able to justify it.

To really understand him, research and read threads here about disfellowshipping. He went through that once, and it is still fresh on his mind.

Has he ever talked about it?

Best wishes. We are rooting for you. Please pop in and let us know how you are doing.

We are here for you.

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Marrying out of the truth poem!

by DagothUr in

jw
friends

marrying out of the truth !!.

(author's name removed to protect privacy).

he or she-- doesn't love jehovah .

MissFit

Great point Never A JW.

The Org. Has JWs believing that they have the corner on human decency and good conduct. We were always told that "the world" and "worldly" people were evil and scary and harmful.

I found in my experience most"worldly" people were more loving, honest and genuine than most JWs i knew.

I must say as a JW that "married out of the "truth", it is difficult to stay "spiritually "strong. The org. Demands alot of time, energy and commitment that the non JW was not expecting, not to mention the tight control the society has on a JWs thoughts and actions. I found myself torn and feeling like i was choosing my husband over Jehovah. But i could not see how my husband could be worthy of death. It is hard to be with someone that you are mourning. Non JWs dont understand the pressure that the fear of Armageddon has on their spouse.

When the org. Talks about the 3 cords in a marriage -it meant the husband, the wife and the Organization (not God). The nonJW spouse has to share with the Org.

It is the Org. That puts pressure on the marriage.

I dealt with a lot of guilt because of drivel like that poem. My husband did not deserve being protrayed as someone unworthy because he did not have the same belief system as myself or the JWs.

He was always supportive of me. When he got laid off, instead of beating me and infecting me with HIV, or mooching off my salary, he found another job because he had skills. I learned uncondional love from him.

I do feel it was easier to fade but i had to be ready to wake up. I think i was subconsciously fadeing and waking up when i met him. I just needed to get mentally out and learn TTATT.

That is what the Org. Is afraid of-us learning how normal the "world" is and how totally unextraordinary the JWs are.

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