outbutnotdown

Joined

• started 42 topics
• posted 524 times   see topics posted on
• send a message

Posts by outbutnotdown

• 
  160

  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  Valis,

  You are too funny!!! Call the papers........ puppies in bondage!!!!! LOL..

  BTW, I too enjoyed our conversation the other night.

  Brad
• 
  25

  It's freezing!! I love it!! My backyard rink!!

  by outbutnotdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i said it last year and i'll say it again.......... i just love my backyard rink.. .

  i taught all of my children (4) how to skate on my backyard rink.

  besides that, the life-lessons that they have learned extend beyond what words could express.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  Brad if you are building them rinks, teaching them to skate, going to their games, delving into life's lessons - that's a pretty good start into having a good "season" as a dad.

  Enjoy every fricking second of it because there are only a few years that they need, then want us around - in this way.

  confusedjw,

  Shhhhh!!!!! Don't tell me that they might not want me around shortly. It may be true, but I will gladly live in my "other" world for now.

  Still, your son got both goals!!!????? Awesome!!!! You must be so proud.

  Brad
• 
  25

  It's freezing!! I love it!! My backyard rink!!

  by outbutnotdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i said it last year and i'll say it again.......... i just love my backyard rink.. .

  i taught all of my children (4) how to skate on my backyard rink.

  besides that, the life-lessons that they have learned extend beyond what words could express.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  how wonderful! i can just hear everyone laughing and having a great time. i luv skating...

  Thanks I&P,

  There's room for you to throw your skates on and skate with us.

  Brad
• 
  3

  Selfish/Selfless acts......... which?

  by outbutnotdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have a cousin, who i feel, was greatly responsible for me ceasing to believe in jw teachings.

  besides showing me the "light" he is a very wise and kind person and deserves my respect.. he always stressed that humans are inhently selfish.

  while i was a jw i quickly passed his thoughts as being too independant of "god".

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  I have a cousin, who I feel, was greatly responsible for me ceasing to believe in JW teachings. Besides showing me the "light" he is a very wise and kind person and deserves my respect.

  He always stressed that humans are inhently selfish. While I was a JW I quickly passed his thoughts as being too independant of "God". After I left the JW org., I think I began to understand what he was saying.

  I can honestly say that I have seen more selfless acts on this single website than I ever did in the JW congregation. Why is that? Please share your thoughts on how the great people here have helped yourselves.

  For the time-being I will only say a couple of people that I feel have made my life better..... Big Tex..... and Jez....... there..... odd as it may seem... that was not easy.......... I hope people will say who has helped them as well. Thanks,

  Brad
• 
  160

  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  No you know full well what you have to lose if you ever did cheat. If more guys would think beyond the urge of the moment..........sigh.

  Bikerchic,

  I think that most men think beyond what they will "lose" if they cheat. Like Big Tex said, there are some of us around that stay faithful because it is the morally right thing to do.

  We are not only 2%, like some figures want to suggest.

  Brad
• 
  25

  It's freezing!! I love it!! My backyard rink!!

  by outbutnotdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i said it last year and i'll say it again.......... i just love my backyard rink.. .

  i taught all of my children (4) how to skate on my backyard rink.

  besides that, the life-lessons that they have learned extend beyond what words could express.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  WOW!!!!

  Your son got both goals? Congrats!!! Aside from our own bragging rights of being their mother/father isn't it great to just see their joy?

  My son's hilight of the year so far was that they ALL got the MVP award when they won 1-0. It's beautiful to see them respecting each other in such a positive way.

  Brad
• 
  160

  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  I view it as part of a contract which can be voided by actions on either partner's part. You may be right about it. I just watched my father, in an affection-less marriage, take out a lot of his frustration on us kids. Sometimes keeping a promise hurts people more than breaking or bending it. Just my 2 cents.

  Czar,

  I think I know fully what you are talking about. I completely agree. I have lived my life learning to "prevent" anger such as your father, (and mine) kept pent up.

  For the purposes of this discussion, I will just say that men will cheat (or not) based on their individual circumstances. Nothing makes it absolutely right or wrong.

  I can only say that I feel your pain and I sympathize with you. IMO, your thoughts on this are worth a hell of a lot more than 2 cents.

  Brad
• 
  160

  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  So you've NEVER broken a promise? Even a little one? Under duress, even? You can be merciless if you like, but there are circumstances...

  CZAR

  Czar,

  My statement was not intended to be absolute, as you seem to take it. I never did cheat on my ex-wife while we were together. Maybe I should have. I'm not sure. IMHO, marriage vows are more of a pact to each other than it is to God or whatever.

  When you make a promise to your life-partner, (IMO) you are making a promise to yourself. It should be respected as if it was a promise to yourself.

  I have no intention of being "merciless" to you or anyone else.

  Brad
• 
  160

  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  There is a fair bit of pressure on men to cheat, too. If a man hasn't slept with many women, there is a tendency to view him as odd or weak

  That depends on who their friends are. Some people may find contentment/sexual fulfillment the first time. Should we try to tell them that "better" sex is around the corner?

  Brad (I am all for freedom between the sexes, but when you make a promise..... it should stand.)
• 
  25

  It's freezing!! I love it!! My backyard rink!!

  by outbutnotdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i said it last year and i'll say it again.......... i just love my backyard rink.. .

  i taught all of my children (4) how to skate on my backyard rink.

  besides that, the life-lessons that they have learned extend beyond what words could express.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  outbutnotdown

  k..... thanks Brummie.

  When it gets light, I will do so and hopefully you can see the reason for my passion.

  I am also interested in hearing other people's thoughts on things that they do (similar to my making a rink) that they consider to be "for the kids". I always need new ideas.

  Brad (of the "I need to go out and watch the water freeze for a moment" class.)

  BTW, Brummie, do you get to go skating in England? IMO, one of the "perks" of living in Canada. Sorry, bikerchic for using profanity. No offense intended.