Ditto the remarks about going S - L - O - W with your wife, esp. if she is pioneer-minded.
We have been so conditioned that any stress in life can be cared for best by going in service. That does not dissipate readily.
I was an idiot as I became fully aware, because I've been floating for 20 years. But when I became fully aware, I thought others should be able to grasp that it's all BS in a short period of time.
I wish I would have read Steven Hassan's book first to realize how messed up the mind of a person in a control group becomes.